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[fakexfrowns]

so i think i figured out what's wrong with me. i've never been completely and totally single. well, i have, but it's been a long time. i didn't technically always have a boyfriend, but for a year curtis was always there, and i knew it wasn't ever over. then i stopped talking to him for danny, and that didn't turn out well and now i've got nothin.

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Re: Bored?

[anonymous]

You wouldn't recognize my name even if I told you. I'm a friend of a friend, which is how I wandered onto your blog -- I was reading hers, and yours was linked. I'm much older than you. But seriously... you're young, smart, pretty, and in your freshman year in college. There are a million things for you to do, if only grab your favorite book and go sit under a tree and either read or just watch people.

Here's my advice, which since you didn't ask for you can totally ignore: don't go out with any guy who doesn't treat you the way you deserve. This means, among other things, calling when he says he'll call, talking to you (I mean, come on. Talking to you is perhaps the minimum requirement for a boyfriend. If he won't TALK to you, not only is he not treating you right, he's an asshole), showing up when when he says he will, wanting to be with you because he likes you and thinks you're great. Also? someone who constantly calls you in the middle of the night and wakes you up is not someone who has your best interests in mind, he's a psycho who gets off on jerking you around, and you need to shut off your phone at night and ignore him until he goes away. Someone should have told you that. You want someone who says nice things to you about his friends and to his friends about you, who tells you about himself and who wants to hear about you, and who goes out of his way to do things that he thinks will make you happy. Not to a stalker degree, but to a NORMAL degree. Someone who acts like a friend, but better, and who you think is hot and can't wait to get your hands on. That's what a boyfriend should be.

A psycho who jerks you around is not a boyfriend. How do you know the difference? If you feel bad about yourself after you're with him, or you feel like something's wrong with you, or he says nasty things to you and then wants to fuck you, or he ignores you unless he's drunk, that puts him in the 'psycho who jerks you around' category, and he should be dumped immediately. Why should you spend your time being miserable? You deserve better, and the best way to get someone better is to not put up with crap from someone who's being an asshole. If you're busy putting up with the assholes, you'll be too busy to see someone great. And even though that last sentence sounded incredibly fucking lame, really, it's true.

Okay, that's it... sorry for the lecture. I just wish someone had explained that all to me when I was your age, because I spent a lot of time with assholes trying to figure out why I was so miserable (until a friend pointed out that it was probably because I was living with an asshole. Suddenly it all made sense). So go forth and conquer, or whatever cheesy phrase is appropriate here, and remember: if someone makes you feel bad, get rid of him. Don't waste your time with assholes. You're smart, you're beautiful, and you're in college. Go have a good time.

Oh, and Allison? Don't drink so much that you're out of control. Drinking is fun, being out of control is really bad. It makes you dependent on the kindness of strangers, and that didn't get Blanche DuBois anywhere she wanted to be at all.