I don't want to fight anymore either. I'm so sick of this. I don't want to just stop associating with you (although we kind of have) but at the same time I don't know what else to do. As for it being ok that me and Frank are together and in love and not ok with you and Erin, that's exactly how I feel. Like it's ok that you and Erin are together but not ok that me and Frank are. How did we get to this? It's all so weird. Holly and I watched you and Erin walk in, and then you looked up at us, (at the football game) and sat so far away. It hurt us, but at the same time it was kind of a relief for me, because I don't know how to act around you anymore. I don't know what's ok and what's not, and it's especially awkward if Frank is there. We either need to learn how to deal with each other (I watched How to Deal the other day and though of you cause you told me to buy it when we were at Wal Mart that time) or just... I don't know. All that I really have an issue with anymore is that I hate feeling guilty when Erin isn't included in absolutely everything. I certainly don't want to start another fight or anything, but if we ever do learn to get along again, that's what I want fixed. I understand that she's a part of you, just like Frank is a part of me. And that you want her there at times, and that's fine. But it would be nice to be able to have time with you without feeling guilty or to be able to just get together without making it an issue if she's invited or not. And also, if we do patch things up, I think any negative talking about the significant other should stop, on both sides. I've voiced my opinions and so have you, so unless it's actually something useful or important then we just shouldn't say anything. You know, if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all? Because when you ever say something about Frank that's negative, that hurts me, too. And I know it's the same with you and Erin. I think we just need to accept each other and what's happened and move on. Whether it's moving on being friends, or moving on being acquaintances, I want to move on from being in the middle and not sure what's what. I would like to be friends with you again, I really would, but maybe we just can't. I don't know. I'm just being honest. Maybe you and I need to talk? Alone? Just the two of us? I don't know if that would work. If it would get anything accomplished, or when we would. I don't know at all, but we need to get by this either way.
Neither Erin nor I knew you two were there until we saw you walk in front of us after half time. When we were looking around it was just to find somewhere to sit, and we didn't see you. I never needed Erin to always be there. I just thought that since she was friends with you guys it would work out. Generally I'm with her, so if you want to do something rather than blow her off I just wanted her to come along. She only goes for me. She feels left out when the three of us were together. But if we are friends again, I don't think it will be an issue cause I don't think she would want to come. Unless it was a holiday or something like that. We can try talking again, but everytime we tried we just ended up fighting. Maybe what we need is to talk with a chaperone as bad as that sounds. Get everything out and not hate each other for what the other says. And then be ok.
obviously everyone would be biased...but I would say have Holly that way it isn't Frank or Erin and they aren't voicing their opinion...just keeping us from getting to mad at yelling at each other...we could even do it online
As for it being ok that me and Frank are together and in love and not ok with you and Erin, that's exactly how I feel. Like it's ok that you and Erin are together but not ok that me and Frank are.
How did we get to this? It's all so weird.
Holly and I watched you and Erin walk in, and then you looked up at us, (at the football game) and sat so far away. It hurt us, but at the same time it was kind of a relief for me, because I don't know how to act around you anymore. I don't know what's ok and what's not, and it's especially awkward if Frank is there.
We either need to learn how to deal with each other (I watched How to Deal the other day and though of you cause you told me to buy it when we were at Wal Mart that time) or just... I don't know.
All that I really have an issue with anymore is that I hate feeling guilty when Erin isn't included in absolutely everything. I certainly don't want to start another fight or anything, but if we ever do learn to get along again, that's what I want fixed. I understand that she's a part of you, just like Frank is a part of me. And that you want her there at times, and that's fine. But it would be nice to be able to have time with you without feeling guilty or to be able to just get together without making it an issue if she's invited or not.
And also, if we do patch things up, I think any negative talking about the significant other should stop, on both sides. I've voiced my opinions and so have you, so unless it's actually something useful or important then we just shouldn't say anything. You know, if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all?
Because when you ever say something about Frank that's negative, that hurts me, too. And I know it's the same with you and Erin.
I think we just need to accept each other and what's happened and move on. Whether it's moving on being friends, or moving on being acquaintances, I want to move on from being in the middle and not sure what's what. I would like to be friends with you again, I really would, but maybe we just can't. I don't know. I'm just being honest.
Maybe you and I need to talk? Alone? Just the two of us? I don't know if that would work. If it would get anything accomplished, or when we would. I don't know at all, but we need to get by this either way.
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I never needed Erin to always be there. I just thought that since she was friends with you guys it would work out. Generally I'm with her, so if you want to do something rather than blow her off I just wanted her to come along. She only goes for me. She feels left out when the three of us were together. But if we are friends again, I don't think it will be an issue cause I don't think she would want to come. Unless it was a holiday or something like that.
We can try talking again, but everytime we tried we just ended up fighting. Maybe what we need is to talk with a chaperone as bad as that sounds. Get everything out and not hate each other for what the other says. And then be ok.
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