well yes, I could be doing homework, but...
I am so sick of people hating on women. That's just a fact, and not really what I wanted to talk about right now. In other news, some things recently have reminded me of something that happened while I was home over Thanksgiving, and that happens pretty much any time someone finds out I go to a women's college.
They generally say two things:
1) Oh, I don't think I could do that. Girls get so catty! and
2) Oh, that must be nice! No dressing up to impress guys.
Which. Holy crap, I usually can't even think of a good response and just kind of laugh because why the fuck do people think these things are alright to say?
First of all, the "catty girls" thing, right? It goes with the "I just enjoy hanging out with guys more, there's less drama" thing. Not gonna lie, I said it in high school. I basically prove the point of how stupid it is, because that was a total lie and I've always mainly hung out with girls. Girls who, from elementary school, had it reinforced again and again that girls were catty, girls gossiped, girls fought over boys and stabbed each other in the back. And none of this seemed at all weird to me, that people would say these things, because they were true. So it's like, oh if only girls were like those laid back awesomeface men! And I don't want to be all "can't we all stop learning this and get along with puppies and sunshine," because of course we can't. But we can admit that guys are asses to each other too, and that this is not a female problem but a human problem- OH HEY I wonder if there are any other issues we could apply that to?
Second, how fucked up is it that the only reason I would ever get dressed up is to impress guys? Trust me, I wasn't doing it in high school either. Crazily enough, women can look nice for other reasons! Sometimes for ourselves, because it's fun or you just need a little extra confidence that comes with looking the part, or to look good in front of our friends, or even sometimes to impress *gasp* other ladies. Sometimes, men aren't the only thing on our brains. And the fact that for many women that is the reason they would dress up? That's what we call problematic, you epic ass. Seriously, Specific Dude Who Said This To Me And Shocked Me So I Couldn't Say Anything Useful, seriously. I know this is hard to believe. But not everything is about you. And I was getting to like you a little better, too. THE FACT THAT I DON'T OFTEN GET DRESSED UP AT SCHOOL HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE FACT THAT THERE ARE VERY FEW DUDES AND EVERYTHING TO DO WITH THE FACT THAT I AM A LAZY UNCLEAN BUM.
Fucking hell, people can be stupid. It makes me want to throw books and links about privilege at them, because although it probably wouldn't help it would at least knock them unconscious so I don't have to listen to them be idiots. Aaand now I have to go write a paper about class, oh goodness no one will like me ever again. I was going to say that I know I sound like That Girl Who Took One Sociology Class And Now Sucks but it's probably necessary to have actual arguments if you want to be That Girl, instead of just spending too much time online.
(omg this is so angry umm I am capable of rational discussion when not ranting I swear. and I totally advocate reading up on things and gently pointing out people's wrongness rather than hitting and/or throwing things at them. these things are totes important to discuss, guys!)
They generally say two things:
1) Oh, I don't think I could do that. Girls get so catty! and
2) Oh, that must be nice! No dressing up to impress guys.
Which. Holy crap, I usually can't even think of a good response and just kind of laugh because why the fuck do people think these things are alright to say?
First of all, the "catty girls" thing, right? It goes with the "I just enjoy hanging out with guys more, there's less drama" thing. Not gonna lie, I said it in high school. I basically prove the point of how stupid it is, because that was a total lie and I've always mainly hung out with girls. Girls who, from elementary school, had it reinforced again and again that girls were catty, girls gossiped, girls fought over boys and stabbed each other in the back. And none of this seemed at all weird to me, that people would say these things, because they were true. So it's like, oh if only girls were like those laid back awesomeface men! And I don't want to be all "can't we all stop learning this and get along with puppies and sunshine," because of course we can't. But we can admit that guys are asses to each other too, and that this is not a female problem but a human problem- OH HEY I wonder if there are any other issues we could apply that to?
Second, how fucked up is it that the only reason I would ever get dressed up is to impress guys? Trust me, I wasn't doing it in high school either. Crazily enough, women can look nice for other reasons! Sometimes for ourselves, because it's fun or you just need a little extra confidence that comes with looking the part, or to look good in front of our friends, or even sometimes to impress *gasp* other ladies. Sometimes, men aren't the only thing on our brains. And the fact that for many women that is the reason they would dress up? That's what we call problematic, you epic ass. Seriously, Specific Dude Who Said This To Me And Shocked Me So I Couldn't Say Anything Useful, seriously. I know this is hard to believe. But not everything is about you. And I was getting to like you a little better, too. THE FACT THAT I DON'T OFTEN GET DRESSED UP AT SCHOOL HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE FACT THAT THERE ARE VERY FEW DUDES AND EVERYTHING TO DO WITH THE FACT THAT I AM A LAZY UNCLEAN BUM.
Fucking hell, people can be stupid. It makes me want to throw books and links about privilege at them, because although it probably wouldn't help it would at least knock them unconscious so I don't have to listen to them be idiots. Aaand now I have to go write a paper about class, oh goodness no one will like me ever again. I was going to say that I know I sound like That Girl Who Took One Sociology Class And Now Sucks but it's probably necessary to have actual arguments if you want to be That Girl, instead of just spending too much time online.
(omg this is so angry umm I am capable of rational discussion when not ranting I swear. and I totally advocate reading up on things and gently pointing out people's wrongness rather than hitting and/or throwing things at them. these things are totes important to discuss, guys!)