RIP, another one lost to that dmn disease.. DARKOVER alert.

Dec 01, 2009 11:19

i am sad to say that i am mourning the loss of yet another friend ( Read more... )

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rowangolightly December 1 2009, 16:28:38 UTC
Amen...so sorry, my dear.

As one who 'feels entirely healthy' and who has not visited a doctor in waaaay too long, I'm calling to schedule one TODAY.

I loathe being a statistic and don't want to be that one.

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fabricdragon December 1 2009, 16:39:33 UTC
pls do. whatever screenings you are due for, go get them. especially if you are due for that one.

and no matter WHAT the doctor says.. (and i hope he says you are fine, go away) get a letter to your next of kin, tell them where to find your computer passwords, your bills, your policies, and so on.....
so if something does happen, they know where the information they will need is.

i REALLY dont want to have to deal with this anymore. tired of it... really.

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rowangolightly December 1 2009, 16:55:46 UTC
Yeah, I'm getting as much as I can checked out before I leave here and have no insurance again until who-knows-when.

I hadn't thought of the information part of it, truly.

Now that I'm going to be single again, I'll need to do just that. Only with me, it will be Family of Choice, since I no longer have living relatives that I'm that close to.

I don't blame you one bit, dear, I'm so very sorry.

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fabricdragon December 1 2009, 23:03:53 UTC
family is family..... by choice or by blood makes no never mind.

a lot of folks forget that in the event they die suddenly (that proverbial bus) their next of kin or estate person may not have any idea how to find your burial arrangements, your passwords for the computer, your pets vet, what have you.
especially if your "next of kin" is not KIN, you need to have them on a legal paper with your legal statement that they are in charge of _______ and _____ and have custody of _____ until the bills get paid and etc.

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So sorry purplevenus December 1 2009, 17:31:08 UTC
To hear about your loss.
Hugs and good thoughts.

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Re: So sorry fabricdragon December 1 2009, 23:14:01 UTC
thank you
while we were not especially close...... i think two things really got me
the speed.... (i saw him Sunday morning. he was apparently dead Sunday night)
and it was that dmn disease again.

tired of it, really....... lost too many to it

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panteraonca December 1 2009, 17:43:37 UTC
Holy crap. *HUGS* I'm so sorry.

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fabricdragon December 1 2009, 23:12:32 UTC
thanks
he was AT Darkover.
he was there Sunday
he was dead that night.

"for this very night shall your soul be required of you"
sobering...... i thought we would have a few weeks at least

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becoming_rachel December 1 2009, 18:07:44 UTC
((hugs))
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I agree about getting affairs/wishes in order. I'm a fairly healthy 31-year-old but I still carry my organ donor card all the time. I've also made it clear to my loved ones what my life support etc wishes are. I really should do a living will/health care directive, though..
I also think early medical detection is SO KEY.
Again, I'm so sorry...I will light a candle for them.((mor hugz))

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fabricdragon December 1 2009, 23:06:10 UTC
early detection means the literal difference between life and death.
it can also mean the difference between "lots of options" and drastic measures.

and pls, do get your living will and will and all settled.. and something people forget? make sure someone knows where a sealed envelope with your passwrds are, so they can close down your accounts, and post a mesage on your blog. you dont need to give it to anyone, just tell themn 'a sealed envelope labeled "codes" is in my desk drawer at home...."

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dcseain December 1 2009, 20:08:22 UTC
I heard of this on Sunday. *hug* He will be missed. i'm thrilled that he and Seanara married.

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fabricdragon December 1 2009, 23:10:18 UTC
yes
i am trying to get an address for sympathy cards....

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