Is an affair ever justified?
I know the answer to this should always be "no". The problem is that I have a much greater sex drive than my wife. I am rarely allowed inside her (the last time was, if I remember correctly, before Christmas), and even when I am her attitude is usually one of "get it over with
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many married people have different sex drive than their spouses. i always thought that guys had more sex drive than us. but lately that is untrue in my situation. i have been married for 6 years and i believe i have more of a sex drive than he does.
anyway, it IS possible to love without much sex. but i think it hurts not to have your spouse attend to your necessities. we are animals when it comes to our natural necessities. we will eat when we're hungry (unless you're anorexic and restrain from eating...lol). we will go to the bathroom when we can't hold it any longer. we will sleep when we're tired, and if we're not, we are very very cranky, right? same goes with sex. animals have sex when they feel the need. and those who are restrained by their owners, being prisioners in a house, will definitely masturbate in an animal way, whether it is their owner's leg or a stuffed animal!!!
my point is, sex is a natural necessity and is a very important part of a marriage. i have friends who barely have sex with their husband, and i just can't help but feel sorry for their husbands because it is NOT fair.
why dont you try to have an open discussion about this with your wife. you said you really love her and dont want to loose her. tell her that. but also tell her how your non-sex life is affecting you. i know it might be weird to talk about this stuff. but just tough it up. what's the worst that can happen? maybe that she'll tell you that she is just not interested in sex? I(which is very very possible, by the way). but at least you know you had the talk with her and you made your point across.
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