Change of Mindset
In about 2 months time, I'll be reaching 23. That's just 1 year left to the dream I once told my secondary school friends beside the 2nd storey staircase landing in school! Our teacher was on M.C. so we had to sit outside of class and 'do work'. Who does school work when you have your friends all around you? Of course we started yakking.
And like many 14 year olds, we had dreams! So what if we haven't seen the world? Back then, every vision was through rose-tinted glasses. Getting married was one of the top goals in my girl friends' list. It sounds so fairy tale, so easy to find a good man who loves us and settle down. Dealing with a screaming baby while battling post-natal blues, managing a household and couple time all at once certainly never crossed our minds.
Now that I am so close to the much anticipated age and the different phase in life that comes with it, contrary to my belief and dreams I once held dear as a young girl, I no longer look forward to having them realised in the next few years at least. Marriage? Kids? No thanks. I don't even wish for a relationship. Even I am very surprised at my change in mindset. My friends always think I want to start a family soon. Uh, not anymore, not after UK.
I'm sorry Government. It's totally not your fault though thanks for trying so hard. I support the SDU effort by the way and still believe in marriage and the importance of families but this isn't for me right now. And I really respect those who have kept their relationship alive for years. It's hard, hard work every day and no doubt very rewarding too, knowing that there's someone you can trust and watch your back.
It's only recently did I come to understand why they always say that when a couple gets married, it's a 'match made in heaven'. Truly, I really think that it is hard to find someone who is compatible and both are willing to overlook the ugly side in the other person and choose to love them wholeheartedly, so much so that they are willing to spend and build the rest of their lives together. Today, it's so easy to just give up and think that there's someone else better out there. After all, there are many fishes in the sea right?
There's so much to be discovered upon hindsight. I wonder what will my mindset be in another 9 years time!
And like many 14 year olds, we had dreams! So what if we haven't seen the world? Back then, every vision was through rose-tinted glasses. Getting married was one of the top goals in my girl friends' list. It sounds so fairy tale, so easy to find a good man who loves us and settle down. Dealing with a screaming baby while battling post-natal blues, managing a household and couple time all at once certainly never crossed our minds.
Now that I am so close to the much anticipated age and the different phase in life that comes with it, contrary to my belief and dreams I once held dear as a young girl, I no longer look forward to having them realised in the next few years at least. Marriage? Kids? No thanks. I don't even wish for a relationship. Even I am very surprised at my change in mindset. My friends always think I want to start a family soon. Uh, not anymore, not after UK.
I'm sorry Government. It's totally not your fault though thanks for trying so hard. I support the SDU effort by the way and still believe in marriage and the importance of families but this isn't for me right now. And I really respect those who have kept their relationship alive for years. It's hard, hard work every day and no doubt very rewarding too, knowing that there's someone you can trust and watch your back.
It's only recently did I come to understand why they always say that when a couple gets married, it's a 'match made in heaven'. Truly, I really think that it is hard to find someone who is compatible and both are willing to overlook the ugly side in the other person and choose to love them wholeheartedly, so much so that they are willing to spend and build the rest of their lives together. Today, it's so easy to just give up and think that there's someone else better out there. After all, there are many fishes in the sea right?
There's so much to be discovered upon hindsight. I wonder what will my mindset be in another 9 years time!