Life is suffering.
One of the most scariest things in life is change. And the biggest changes that you know will impact your life for better or for worse, may also be something to dive into. Along with change, you have to learn how to detach yourself from what you're comfortable with. Buddhism teaches that when you detach yourself from the physical, you suffer less. Suffering is our basic human problem-- our desires lead to attachment to things, people, places, memories, etc. which leads to suffering in all forms. The question for me is, how do you know if you're really detaching yourself from something or if you're just repressing everything into the subconscious? What's the difference? The former is pure detachment. It would be finally realizing that you never needed something or someone; you can live without it. However, I do believe that telling yourself that you don't need something or someone can lead to fully detaching yourself from it or them; although, I do think that this way of thinking is detrimental. Funny thing is, I have found myself doing this just recently. I subconsciously tell myself to detach from certain relationships... that the only person I need is myself... that you can't rely on other people to fill certain emotions, needs, wants, dreams, tasks, etc. of yours, even if you give them the liberty... and man, is it a total mind-fuck. There are times when I actually have to second-question myself if that's what I really want. Scary thing is, half of the time I'm saying yes. Is my need for complete independence a way for me to mask my vulnerability... so that my heart can't feel heartbreak or the hole that resides within it? Sometimes I see myself in Sandra Bullock's character in the movie, The Proposal, where life gets too busy for anyone other than my job and I. It sounds kind of sad but I can see at one point during a workaholic's life that emotions and feelings are no longer part of the schedule. That may make me numb, but that's one less suffering in my life.