done!
I'm completely walking away from my relationship with my in laws. my mother in law is pushy and constantly defends ryan no matter what he has done or doesn't do and i've had enough of that. i feel like i constantly have to walk on eggshells with that family for fear of offending someone.
my sister in law, annalisa and her husband ray feel that no one should have any expectations on them, even the most basic ones like returning a phone call or inquiring gesture about well being. well they have succeeded in making me have no expectations of them because i'm walking away from that too. i've shed enough tears over being ignored so obviously and completely by those two people that i thought loved me and that i DID love that i have to walk away for my own well being.
somehow no matter how OBVIOUS it is to me that i did nothing wrong (for example, expecting some sembalance of a relationship with a grown woman who identified herself as my sister...which has become obvious THAT was complete bullshit). no one did she not tell me that she can't handle interaction with me, her HUSBAND had to do it...but because she can't handle interaction with me it's somehow partially my fault? FUCK THAT. i've been hurt enough by this supposed sister. i'm drawing the line, i'm walking away.
ryan will not be visiting wisconsin without me ever again, but i don't intend to go out there and walk on eggshells to make everyone feel happy anymore. my entire in law family is screwed up beyond belief. just because you're religious doesn't make you good people. you're still perfectly capable of being the type of person to hurt someone who only wants the best for you,
i'm not putting myself out there anymore. congrats, Annalisa, i no longer have even the most basic of expectations of you.