First I want to really really thank you for going to the effort to summarize/translate these for us. I'm sure we all appreciate it immensely.
I haven't commented on these summaries before now, I've been taking my time formulating my opinion. One thing I really like about this show is the honesty. We may think some of the people talked about here are stupid and some of the advice should be common sense but I'm sure if these situations happen once they happen a thousand times, and everyone can get pretty stupid in the areas of love and sex, and they are here talking about it all very openly and honestly and hopefully it can at least get some people thinking about things more.
Of course, I am a bit skeptical of some of his advice. Not that it is necessarily bad, the testing he talks about here is definitely good advice, but I have a feeling he doesn't always follow some of his own advice and I tend to have some serious issues with hypocrisy. Of course, I am still very interested in learning what he has to say and will continue to await each installment eagerly.
I kinda get what you mean but then at the same time, he's so obsessive about being perfect I have to imagine he'd take things like STDs really srsly. Nothing turns someone off more =P
Yes, I'm sure on that issue he's going to take some care and definitely follow his own advice. It is some of his actual approaches to relationships, specifically in maintaining them long-term that I think some hypocrisy comes into play. I think he knows what it would take to have a good strong relationship but for some reason, his career or his personality or whatever, he either can't or doesn't really want to make this happen for himself and this should make any girl looking for any kind of meaningful relationship hesitate at getting involved with him.
Let me just respond to this one before I go to bed for the night.^^
Well, I can understand your issues with hypocrisy. But to me, he's not being a hypocrite at all, because he's just giving advice to his male fans who he knows must be looking for something in life very different from what he's looking for in life... Most of the fans are planning on marrying someone and make a happy family. If G were talking to a fellow artist who's planning on being completely devoted to his fans and art and willing to die on stage (figuratively speaking ^^;) just like G, then G's advice would be completely different. Am I making sense? I'm not saying G doesn't want a long-term relationship, but if his fans and art have to take the backseat because of it, then romance is something he's willing to sacrifice.
I know it sounds crazy/silly, but to me, G here is sort of like a celibate monk XD giving relationship advice to people, knowing he has no use for such advice himself. (Bad comparison? Absolutely. XD;)
Yes, yes I see what you mean. Perhaps hypocrisy really is the wrong word, it does have a much more negative feeling to it than is what I am actually feeling here. I do understand in many ways what he is doing but maybe it is his style of doing it that confuses me or something. The truth is there are many things about the way I live my life and make decisions that I would probably never advise anybody to do yet for me I feel they are the best way to do things, you're right that he would probably never advise these young men to do things the way he does. But when I give advice I always try to qualify the situation for which it is given, knowing different situations require different strategies. From what I can tell there is no qualification of the situation here so it comes across to me as being kind of blanket advice. But this is the way I interpret things so this is my failing not his or yours in your translation.
Also, I think part of my feeling is just that there is some part of him that does want a more meaningful longer-term relationship and I believe he could have it if he chose to, without completely throwing away his career. Of course he would have to make his schedule a little more reasonable in order to devote the proper time necessary to a successful relationship, but it should be doable. I just wonder why he doesn't make this choice. Its one of those questions that kind of haunts me.
I don't know, the more time I think about this the more complicated it becomes in my head but my head seems to really enjoy making things complicated. In general I really don't fault him for what he is doing here, it is basically good and I look forward to more of your translations and hearing what he has to say. Any issues I have with what he says probably mostly reflects some of my own concerns in life. I hope this made some kind of sense though as my brain now feels like it is going in circles and I am not sure if I explained myself well.
Yeah, a celibate monk is a really bad comparison XD but I know what your trying to say;)
Ah, you're right in that the advice he gave may possibly have been somewhat inappropriate for the concerned situations since nobody can really know the details of what happened in those cases except for the couples involved. But I think that he really wasn't just giving advice to them, but to the entire audience inside and outside the studio. So, in a way they really were blanket advice, and I see nothing wrong with that, since the idea was to reach out to all the viewers.
Well, I guess he doesn't make the choice to change the work schedule to accommodate longer-term relationships precisely because he doesn't want to. Some people seem to think he can't be happy without a deep romantic relationship, but I don't agree. I think he counts his blessings each and everyday, knowing how blessed and happy he is. Always exhausted perhaps, but very happy and content, because I think that he chose at one point to be married to his art and his fans, as corny as it may sound. ^^;;;; Sometimes I wonder if I view him quite differently from some fans... Hmmmm
Thanks for your candid opinions. It's interesting to hear different views like this. ^^
I haven't commented on these summaries before now, I've been taking my time formulating my opinion. One thing I really like about this show is the honesty. We may think some of the people talked about here are stupid and some of the advice should be common sense but I'm sure if these situations happen once they happen a thousand times, and everyone can get pretty stupid in the areas of love and sex, and they are here talking about it all very openly and honestly and hopefully it can at least get some people thinking about things more.
Of course, I am a bit skeptical of some of his advice. Not that it is necessarily bad, the testing he talks about here is definitely good advice, but I have a feeling he doesn't always follow some of his own advice and I tend to have some serious issues with hypocrisy. Of course, I am still very interested in learning what he has to say and will continue to await each installment eagerly.
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Well, I can understand your issues with hypocrisy. But to me, he's not being a hypocrite at all, because he's just giving advice to his male fans who he knows must be looking for something in life very different from what he's looking for in life... Most of the fans are planning on marrying someone and make a happy family.
If G were talking to a fellow artist who's planning on being completely devoted to his fans and art and willing to die on stage (figuratively speaking ^^;) just like G, then G's advice would be completely different. Am I making sense?
I'm not saying G doesn't want a long-term relationship, but if his fans and art have to take the backseat because of it, then romance is something he's willing to sacrifice.
I know it sounds crazy/silly, but to me, G here is sort of like a celibate monk XD giving relationship advice to people, knowing he has no use for such advice himself. (Bad comparison? Absolutely. XD;)
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Also, I think part of my feeling is just that there is some part of him that does want a more meaningful longer-term relationship and I believe he could have it if he chose to, without completely throwing away his career. Of course he would have to make his schedule a little more reasonable in order to devote the proper time necessary to a successful relationship, but it should be doable. I just wonder why he doesn't make this choice. Its one of those questions that kind of haunts me.
I don't know, the more time I think about this the more complicated it becomes in my head but my head seems to really enjoy making things complicated. In general I really don't fault him for what he is doing here, it is basically good and I look forward to more of your translations and hearing what he has to say. Any issues I have with what he says probably mostly reflects some of my own concerns in life. I hope this made some kind of sense though as my brain now feels like it is going in circles and I am not sure if I explained myself well.
Yeah, a celibate monk is a really bad comparison XD but I know what your trying to say;)
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Well, I guess he doesn't make the choice to change the work schedule to accommodate longer-term relationships precisely because he doesn't want to. Some people seem to think he can't be happy without a deep romantic relationship, but I don't agree. I think he counts his blessings each and everyday, knowing how blessed and happy he is. Always exhausted perhaps, but very happy and content, because I think that he chose at one point to be married to his art and his fans, as corny as it may sound. ^^;;;;
Sometimes I wonder if I view him quite differently from some fans... Hmmmm
Thanks for your candid opinions. It's interesting to hear different views like this. ^^
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