Beef with Commenting Back
This is not about anyone on here, I swear. I'm just venting in general.
I have beef with people not responding to comments, or texts. Don't get me wrong, it's okay to not respond to everything. I do that, too. Nobody can respond to all comments or texts or whatever, especially when they are loaded with them or really busy. So, I don't want to ( Read more... )
Ooops, 3 months passed! X'D Which is why I'm late here.
And then there's that other annoying problem. Missing notifications. Tons of notifications of things I don't WANT to be notified about. Post over post I DON'T want o see. It's straining.
I've come to like Instagram as of late, because it's wonderfully simple. I admit, at times too simple. When you don't get notified and forgot to save a post, it's almost impossible to find it again unless you know exactly where to search X'DDDD. They've got no copy-paste which is terrible (not in "finished" comments) and editing tools. But at least it's not as noisy as FB or Twitter. Twitter has become terrible in my opinion.
Anyways. I know this type of insecurity and it took work but I'm glad that I've overcome most of it. It still can appear with real life people and situations. But I've come to an easy soluion. For most people I just warn them from the start. If they want to be friends, this is how I work (aka, very irregularly) and then I warn them that I'll be direct (in a considerate manner) and that I rely on them to be adults and come at me whenever there's something. I keep repeating it to them and myself. Stop wondering. Just ask! In your case: If there's no answer, then leave it alone and give the responsibility back. It's THEIR job to come to you with THEIR problem. Trust them to manage that much or to learn from it. You can still go after them when they've not talked to you in a half year *loooooooooooool*
Nee-chan. Just saying but......Japanese people are probably the most relyable and hard-working I know. (^^'') A huge part of the rest of the worl is full of people who're not like that. Germans are often rather relyable, too. At least unless they're from the relaxed type. I'm sure there's a few more countries where majority is, but Japanese will probably still be the ones with the highest collective(!!!!!!) AND self-discipline. X'D With that little side effect that you swethearts have a tendency for high expectations on both. America is a melting pot, no? There's a lot of southern culture, too, right? People from southern cultures tend to be more easy going. Even if they're hard-working they are often way more relaxed. Especially when a big percentage of people in their country are very poor. It's a very interesting topic. I've pondered it quite a lot already.
So unless you're dealing with an especially reliable person, a very Japanese, a hard working type of German or otherwise more central-and-wealthy-type of culture person ....... chances are high they are overall more relaxed than you about it :'3
It's good to learn from them at times. People like you and I who put a lot of value into what we think, do and say (and hence, promise ot not) and HOW (oh god, the how!) are bound to have to put up with it not being common. *shrugs* It's good to accept it and couner it with straight forward honesty. Don't fear who you are. If you're insecure, then fine, you are. Tell them. Most of them will remember to put that "like" as acknowledgement or to bear with your poking ("Is everything OK between us?"). Because it's you. They'll maybe not do it anywhere else, but they'll do it for you for sure :-*
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