Yeah that's quite true. Though it can indeed change. It's a matter of consciousness.
I'm a giver and I know it, so I've learned to strictly manage my energy. I'm fine getting exhausted with others at times. Because I enjoy their company greatly and I'm happy when they leave all recharged for a while. I've come to learn to not drain my own reserves too much though. Because there's another source, aparently! You don't need to help people recharge by giving your energy!! You use your energy to start a process and create a high swinging happy energy mood. And from then on the energy comes flowing in from above and below and you can reacharge together and have fun!!
There's a funny "problem" with that though *loooooooooool* Most people who have it don't understand what it is. I didn't for a whole long while. We don't just feel exhausted when we're too low on energy. We also feel exhausted when we're too high on it!!!! Isn't that funny? Overcharging absolutely makes tired! So often when we spend a truly wonderful time with friends and then feel exhaused, it's because we've been in a surrounding of high frequency and are either a) not used to it because our level is usually low or b) we're already a high energy person and feel overcharged, because we're bad at balancing our level OR we're good at it but when a lot of energy rushes right through you for a while, you'll be very positively exhausted. It's hard on the body like making sports when you're no athlete training every day (or doing mirning sports routine every day).
Sometimes the giver-sucker balance is also taking place JUST within a relationship. So when people part, they're not the same. A common cause with parents is, that they're literally from another time. There's eventually a big mismatch in values and that is exhausing. The energy levels drop (and the less sensitive person will simply no notice at all or not until they're alone). The same parent and child can be perfect givers towards others. Another aspect is, that every .....let's call it "Karma" and every mental or emotional mechanism, any unsaid and unattended issue between two people are like living things eating energy. You can love the other, but when old conflicts (no matter how stupid or tiny) are standing between to, JUST being around eachother will trigger them to eat away on you. Some eat away on you even when you're not around eachother, but that's usually the more complicated cases.
Being with people is exhausting. End of story. Because we're different, we naturally have mismatching levels of energy surrounding us or of what we need in first place. There's always some kind of "exchange" going on and that's straining. The difference is just, that it can be positively straining or negatively straining. And that some people are way more aware of the strain than others. So alone time is very important. It's comparable to "sleep" that is required to be effectively "awake". With the distance, we can rebalance, integrate whatever we learned or experienced and re-evaluate things. It's a system of duality we live in.
It's great you're noticing that you get exhausted. If you can find ways to help her lift her energy herself(!) by making use of triggers or if you learn to call in energies from outside (nature, universe) to do the job instead of you, then you'll be fine. You'll still need to sometimes draw your limits and let people know you need rest, but the better you can make them understand that you're simply a person sensitive to changes and very perceptive (hace have a lot of information to digest) the easier you'll have it. Try comparisons. "If you and I were skin, then I'm the white skin that doesn't get a tan and gets sunburn in the shade while you're still happily sun bathing. I'm sorry to have to say it, but even though it's fun with you, I notice I need to rest now. It's been a day full of experiences" or something of the likes. Ofcourse there're people who're 100% sucking and negative and non-understanding and well, I fear they're not your job. They need someone of thicker skin.
Yeah that's quite true. Though it can indeed change. It's a matter of consciousness.
I'm a giver and I know it, so I've learned to strictly manage my energy. I'm fine getting exhausted with others at times. Because I enjoy their company greatly and I'm happy when they leave all recharged for a while. I've come to learn to not drain my own reserves too much though. Because there's another source, aparently! You don't need to help people recharge by giving your energy!! You use your energy to start a process and create a high swinging happy energy mood. And from then on the energy comes flowing in from above and below and you can reacharge together and have fun!!
There's a funny "problem" with that though *loooooooooool* Most people who have it don't understand what it is. I didn't for a whole long while. We don't just feel exhausted when we're too low on energy. We also feel exhausted when we're too high on it!!!! Isn't that funny? Overcharging absolutely makes tired! So often when we spend a truly wonderful time with friends and then feel exhaused, it's because we've been in a surrounding of high frequency and are either a) not used to it because our level is usually low or b) we're already a high energy person and feel overcharged, because we're bad at balancing our level OR we're good at it but when a lot of energy rushes right through you for a while, you'll be very positively exhausted. It's hard on the body like making sports when you're no athlete training every day (or doing mirning sports routine every day).
Sometimes the giver-sucker balance is also taking place JUST within a relationship. So when people part, they're not the same. A common cause with parents is, that they're literally from another time. There's eventually a big mismatch in values and that is exhausing. The energy levels drop (and the less sensitive person will simply no notice at all or not until they're alone). The same parent and child can be perfect givers towards others.
Another aspect is, that every .....let's call it "Karma" and every mental or emotional mechanism, any unsaid and unattended issue between two people are like living things eating energy. You can love the other, but when old conflicts (no matter how stupid or tiny) are standing between to, JUST being around eachother will trigger them to eat away on you. Some eat away on you even when you're not around eachother, but that's usually the more complicated cases.
Being with people is exhausting. End of story. Because we're different, we naturally have mismatching levels of energy surrounding us or of what we need in first place. There's always some kind of "exchange" going on and that's straining. The difference is just, that it can be positively straining or negatively straining. And that some people are way more aware of the strain than others. So alone time is very important. It's comparable to "sleep" that is required to be effectively "awake". With the distance, we can rebalance, integrate whatever we learned or experienced and re-evaluate things. It's a system of duality we live in.
It's great you're noticing that you get exhausted. If you can find ways to help her lift her energy herself(!) by making use of triggers or if you learn to call in energies from outside (nature, universe) to do the job instead of you, then you'll be fine. You'll still need to sometimes draw your limits and let people know you need rest, but the better you can make them understand that you're simply a person sensitive to changes and very perceptive (hace have a lot of information to digest) the easier you'll have it. Try comparisons. "If you and I were skin, then I'm the white skin that doesn't get a tan and gets sunburn in the shade while you're still happily sun bathing. I'm sorry to have to say it, but even though it's fun with you, I notice I need to rest now. It's been a day full of experiences" or something of the likes. Ofcourse there're people who're 100% sucking and negative and non-understanding and well, I fear they're not your job. They need someone of thicker skin.
<3 Love you, Nee-chan!
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