Winter break just got extended by 3.5 days because my boss is clever. So ask me anything. Nothing is off limits (seriously, I am the queen of over-sharing).
- favorite fanfic tropes? - any hopes/predictions for the upcoming Sherlock S4? - if you were going to write a crossover fic and pairing, which of your fandoms would you use, and which characters would hook up?
Playing an instrument. Being very adept at math. As the two are related, I figure they kind of count as one. I spend less time playing the "I wish I could..." game as I get older, but that one would still be nice to have, I think.
My first reaction is to try to rationalize it away, but since I've been in therapy recently now I try to be more mindful and allow myself to feel sad and also allow myself to feel conflicting emotions at the same time (because one thing I've learned is that one can feel sad about some things and happy about some things at the same time). I do believe in counting blessings, so I do that as well, though I also feel that it can easily become "well, I'm grateful because my life doesn't suck as much as 85% of the rest of the planet's?" so I'm working on balancing logic with being okay with feeling things. Otherwise I practice self-care by exercising, reading, writing, and watching youtube and netflix. I also read or watch porn and get myself off (because orgasms are a great anti-depressant/anti-anxiety). I think studying, interestingly enough, helps because one of the ways I take care of myself is by working on goals.
I like what you said about allowing yourself to feel bad. Sometimes I think we fight against sadness too much. I find myself battling my sadness demons with inner dialogue like "look at all the people worse off than you" "your sadness is selfish" "you are supposed to lift people up - there's no time for sadness" "sadness is weakness." Maybe it would be better to allow ourselves a time out to accept our feelings. Pull the blankets over our heads for just a little while.
Counting blessings - even down to the smallest - is also a lovely thing.
I write pretty much every weekend. If I don't squeeze some writing time in, I feel like the weekend is incomplete and I feel off-balance. I am usually too tired and distracted during the week to write, so I save it for the weekend. Also, the weekend is usually when I'm doing homework and I use writing time as a way to reward myself for getting homework done. I don't have to get a lot of writing done, just a little. Unless, of course, a story is really flowing. Then I'll spend longer periods of time writing.
Rec five of your favorite fanworks (any fandom) and tell everyone what you love about them.
What are your least favorite fanfic tropes?
Also, what's the hardest thing about going into therapy? What's the biggest revelation you've had since you have gone into therapy and how did you feel about it?
I like mine to be switches, too, tbh. Like, I believe some can lean one way or the other, but for most of the fic characters I wrote (or the ones I roleplay), such rigid roles wouldn't make sense.
Man, politically you've got it rough out there. Have you always lived there? Have you ever thought of moving elsewhere? I can imagine how hard the travel is; one of my favorite places in the world to be is Midcoast Maine, but it takes a hell of a long time when you're on one of the finger penninsulas to get anywhere else. I'd love to retire there someday anyway.
The family thing resonates, too. My own's several shades of fucked up, and I guess sometimes I still resent that, but mostly I've built my own since. Thanks for answering these. <3
I grew up in Michigan and moved out here for the job. I stay because I like my job even though I work for a district that is relatively terrible. I am over-educated though and it would be difficult to get myself hired elsewhere outside of Wyoming. Also, I hate interviewing and moving. Also, if I did move out of state I'd be taking a rather large paycut. So I just don't feel like I have a good enough reason to leave, at least not right now. But yeah, traveling takes forever. When I travel internationally, even just to Canada, I am on at least three airplanes before I get to the destination. I've gotten used to it though, so nbd. I want to retire to Prince Edward Island, so we'll basically be neighbors.
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Uhm, let's see:
- favorite fanfic tropes?
- any hopes/predictions for the upcoming Sherlock S4?
- if you were going to write a crossover fic and pairing, which of your fandoms would you use, and which characters would hook up?
I know you said AMA, but feel free to skip any :)
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And in all fairness, I really wish I could draw.
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Counting blessings - even down to the smallest - is also a lovely thing.
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What are your least favorite fanfic tropes?
Also, what's the hardest thing about going into therapy? What's the biggest revelation you've had since you have gone into therapy and how did you feel about it?
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Man, politically you've got it rough out there. Have you always lived there? Have you ever thought of moving elsewhere? I can imagine how hard the travel is; one of my favorite places in the world to be is Midcoast Maine, but it takes a hell of a long time when you're on one of the finger penninsulas to get anywhere else. I'd love to retire there someday anyway.
The family thing resonates, too. My own's several shades of fucked up, and I guess sometimes I still resent that, but mostly I've built my own since. Thanks for answering these. <3
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