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[evilkeight]

It really bothers me when planned rituals that are intended for fun become a burden.  Something I no longer look forward to, but rather, dread because it is seemingly getting in the way of my very breathing.

Is it that I am not a social person?  I am beginning to believe more and more that this is the case.

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[christine_920]

I'm not sure what in particular you're referring to, but I think I understand what you're saying. It's like the rituals become so ingrained that we lose sight of their purpose. And then it's even worse because we spent so much time and energy that now we feel obligated to enjoy what we're doing, but it's not enjoyable anymore.

This is just my personal opinion, but I think Catholics can be very prone to this. We're so used to having planned rituals (which in worship are vital) that we sometimes feel quite guilty about changing the unessential rituals in our lives.

I think some of it might also be related to the things you and I have been discussing recently. It just makes everything seem like a lot more effort than it's worth. That's one reason I didn't plan a get-together with friends on my birthday. The downside is that it seems like nothing we do is good enough, so we also feel guilty for not wanting to make the effort.

I don't know if you're not a social person. You strike me as far more social than I am, but you really don't have to go very far for that. If you're not a social person, don't let it bother you too much. It's not a requirement that you be social. And if worst comes to worst, you and I can sit and be antisocial together.

I hope you don't mind getting comments that are longer than the original post.