not doing so well
Mom had a fall about a month back and I went up to take care of her while she was recovering. Intial diagnosis was way off, she went to a local hospital but has more recently gone to a much more stable situation at Stanford who properly diagnosed her and fixed that situation.
But... roundabout the middle of that Mom's sanity went bye bye. I had first been of the mind this would end when she got better, except now she's better and her sanity is nowhere in sight. She is healthy again, as much as someone 80+ can be healthy, but mentally she's been steadily deteriorating.
Sister came out from the East Coast and is helping, but she's always been the more pragmatic of the two of us... I'm not the sane one by a longshot, and this hasn't helped.
Already talk of selling Mom's place to pay for longterm care while a good place for her to be moved into permanently is selected.
I'd hoped Mom's mind would come back when she got better, as it's happened before... and I know of others who's sanity went bye bye when they were unwell. Me, myself, when I get feverish I get full on hallucinations and my tenuous grasp on sanity (normally refer to myself as functionally sane) goes out the window.
Soon as the fever breaks, I'm right as rain again. Or as close to right as I ever am, at any rate.
Doesn't help I've been plagued with visions the last few months of Mom suddenly being gone, which I had thought meant DEATH and the prospect of that wasn't putting me in a healthy state of existence.
Mom may survive this with the help of others. I'm not so sure I will.
But... roundabout the middle of that Mom's sanity went bye bye. I had first been of the mind this would end when she got better, except now she's better and her sanity is nowhere in sight. She is healthy again, as much as someone 80+ can be healthy, but mentally she's been steadily deteriorating.
Sister came out from the East Coast and is helping, but she's always been the more pragmatic of the two of us... I'm not the sane one by a longshot, and this hasn't helped.
Already talk of selling Mom's place to pay for longterm care while a good place for her to be moved into permanently is selected.
I'd hoped Mom's mind would come back when she got better, as it's happened before... and I know of others who's sanity went bye bye when they were unwell. Me, myself, when I get feverish I get full on hallucinations and my tenuous grasp on sanity (normally refer to myself as functionally sane) goes out the window.
Soon as the fever breaks, I'm right as rain again. Or as close to right as I ever am, at any rate.
Doesn't help I've been plagued with visions the last few months of Mom suddenly being gone, which I had thought meant DEATH and the prospect of that wasn't putting me in a healthy state of existence.
Mom may survive this with the help of others. I'm not so sure I will.