Stumbled across your journal by way of partakeof_nate.
Nice part of me felt the need for comforting words, and not trite, lameass forcefed positive ones. So I'll channel my inner Dr. Drew as best I can.
The key to forging a relationship for you, a healthy one where you can feel loved again, is to find somebody who's not just looking to use you up. When all you associate love with is getting laid, which is a common side effect to a post-trauma rape where you kept dating the guy, you seek out abuse. From your own listing of history of other guys you've dated, you've found more. Find someone who looks at you, not what you'd look like naked. Its hard sometimes, but possible. Mind you, the solution to unhealthy relationships isn't to go on a tilt-a-whirl until you find someone who fits nice guy status. When you aren't in the right mindset for a healthy relationship, its impossible to get into one. Bravo for passing on narcotics. Never makes for a stable environment to be loved. Trust me. Suicidal thoughts... hm. My summation of that topic has always been that suicide is... counterproductive. To everything, really.
It's not impossible to be kinky,sadomasochistic, or otherwise erotic and not in a healthy relationship. Just harder. Complicates things when you have a specific taste. If you've never seen the movie Secretary, do so. Healthiest S&M relationship example I've ever seen. Um... I think I'm out of rambling about situations I don't know enough about objectively. Hope I've been some kind of a help. If you need more, get a hold of me one way or another. Sincerely, lovehonorlife-(wannabe Dr. Drew + Adam Carolla)
Nice part of me felt the need for comforting words, and not trite, lameass forcefed positive ones. So I'll channel my inner Dr. Drew as best I can.
The key to forging a relationship for you, a healthy one where you can feel loved again, is to find somebody who's not just looking to use you up. When all you associate love with is getting laid, which is a common side effect to a post-trauma rape where you kept dating the guy, you seek out abuse. From your own listing of history of other guys you've dated, you've found more. Find someone who looks at you, not what you'd look like naked. Its hard sometimes, but possible. Mind you, the solution to unhealthy relationships isn't to go on a tilt-a-whirl until you find someone who fits nice guy status. When you aren't in the right mindset for a healthy relationship, its impossible to get into one. Bravo for passing on narcotics. Never makes for a stable environment to be loved. Trust me. Suicidal thoughts... hm. My summation of that topic has always been that suicide is... counterproductive. To everything, really.
It's not impossible to be kinky,sadomasochistic, or otherwise erotic and not in a healthy relationship. Just harder. Complicates things when you have a specific taste. If you've never seen the movie Secretary, do so. Healthiest S&M relationship example I've ever seen. Um... I think I'm out of rambling about situations I don't know enough about objectively. Hope I've been some kind of a help. If you need more, get a hold of me one way or another.
Sincerely,
lovehonorlife-(wannabe Dr. Drew + Adam Carolla)
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