Stress
I began seeing Dumplin last summer. I went down to spend the weekend with her. I had fun and she liked me. We didnt talk much but then in October she began calling again. I went out to sea and then in November I went to see her again. I really liked her and I really wanted to be with her. We started going out again and I visited her for Thanksgiving. I met her family. I then went down again the weekends I had free. Then i went down and saw her for Christmas. She then flew home with me to Dallas. I asked her to marry me on December 31st 2005 at the American Airlines Arena in Downtown Dallas during the 3rd period of the Hockey game. I loved being with her. I dont get to see her daily but I see her when I am able to.
We have been struggling as of late. We made plans for a wedding in April but I felt we should wait until after my deployment. We couldnt decide how we wanted to do it big with everyone or just a small wedding or even downtown. We set out a April 15th date and brother jon talked it thru with us and Gladys decided to set it until November. She aggreed and we decided to hold off until after deployment.
She is not happy about it and I still think it bothers her.
We fight a lot. I do not really trust her. I think she is going to get into trouble and get herself in a mess again. But she is saying to me that she is changing and she is not in trouble and being a good girl. She is trying very hard. She smokes a lot and has a horrible diet but that is what she enjoys and i had a hard time understanding this at first but now i do. We fought while we were in Dallas, she did not enjoy my mom. They got into a argument. We fight about issues, i offend her, she thinks that i am a jerk and not nice to her. She thinks I am controlling.
She doesnt write cause she doesnt have a computer.
She does not write letters but she mailed 2 cards.
I have gotten her about as much as i can.
Phone
Home
money
food
loyalty
massages at no end
Sometimes i feel like she is using me and being manipulative. but then i talk to her and she sounds like she is being fair. I talk to her and we fuss. She says I am whine too much and I guess I am too needy. I hardly ever see her, i still havent talked to her much since i got back, she is always with lisa who is having a hard life so it has taken gladys time away from me. i was going to go see her tonight but she is now taking a road trip and wont be back until the morning.
I was going to go down.
she has spent all the money we gave her
and she has rung up a 445 dollar phone bill.
i think this is a bad relationship but i am willing to work it out and make it better cause I know there is something special about her that i am just not getting to see but as soon as she wakes up and gets her head out of her ass she will help us out.
it is not about her or me it is about US
i have to learn this.
We have been struggling as of late. We made plans for a wedding in April but I felt we should wait until after my deployment. We couldnt decide how we wanted to do it big with everyone or just a small wedding or even downtown. We set out a April 15th date and brother jon talked it thru with us and Gladys decided to set it until November. She aggreed and we decided to hold off until after deployment.
She is not happy about it and I still think it bothers her.
We fight a lot. I do not really trust her. I think she is going to get into trouble and get herself in a mess again. But she is saying to me that she is changing and she is not in trouble and being a good girl. She is trying very hard. She smokes a lot and has a horrible diet but that is what she enjoys and i had a hard time understanding this at first but now i do. We fought while we were in Dallas, she did not enjoy my mom. They got into a argument. We fight about issues, i offend her, she thinks that i am a jerk and not nice to her. She thinks I am controlling.
She doesnt write cause she doesnt have a computer.
She does not write letters but she mailed 2 cards.
I have gotten her about as much as i can.
Phone
Home
money
food
loyalty
massages at no end
Sometimes i feel like she is using me and being manipulative. but then i talk to her and she sounds like she is being fair. I talk to her and we fuss. She says I am whine too much and I guess I am too needy. I hardly ever see her, i still havent talked to her much since i got back, she is always with lisa who is having a hard life so it has taken gladys time away from me. i was going to go see her tonight but she is now taking a road trip and wont be back until the morning.
I was going to go down.
she has spent all the money we gave her
and she has rung up a 445 dollar phone bill.
i think this is a bad relationship but i am willing to work it out and make it better cause I know there is something special about her that i am just not getting to see but as soon as she wakes up and gets her head out of her ass she will help us out.
it is not about her or me it is about US
i have to learn this.