living in sin?
Well, it's official: Lisa and I are engage-ed :) After like 8 years, too much of which has been patiently spent apart on account of school and more school, I finally asked her if she would marry me. Actually, I think I just used the question as an excuse to give my girl a ring.. we've both known for quite some time that we'd be together always and we're not really in any hurry to have a formal wedding. Things don't feel any different, except maybe now we've noticed how many million commercials and tv shows involve weddings or engagements ..annoying! As for the proposal, there was no elaborate public display. We went out to dinner at our favorite restaurant and I totally surprised Lisa with the ring at the very end. Since she seemed a bit shocked and neither of us are into the spotlight thing, we retreated out of the restaurant to sit on the stone wall out front all alone together.. and the rest is history :)
I feel like I should take a moment to explain my conflicted feelings about engagement and marriage. I think that engagement, for the most part anyway, is a shallow concept. The idea that someone is not truly yours until you "reserve" them with a ring is just stupid. If someone makes you feel that way, then they are probably not the person for you. I feel like we've been engaged for many years now, and I never once felt any pressure to do this.. and that's why ultimately I decided to do it when I could. I guess I am old fashioned because I chose a diamond, and there is probably some kind of new-age, politically correct method of commencing spousal slavery, but I went for the classic method. And as for weddings, they're mostly for the mothers. So yeah, we don't have even a remote idea of "the date" yet, so don't ask! The only discussion so far has been of either eloping or an elaborate jaws themed ceremony (for the moms, of course), but in the meantime we're just too busy being happy and being ourselves.
And, oh yeah.. neither of us like the word fiance, it sounds pretentious. So you will probably never hear either of us use it. However, if I accidentally call her Beyonce, it should come in handy ;)
Tomorrow I begin my externship semester.. yay for no classes, but unfortunately I have to get up early and dress like a jerk. Also, I got a new guitar and it's incredible. That's all for now. Happy New Year!
I feel like I should take a moment to explain my conflicted feelings about engagement and marriage. I think that engagement, for the most part anyway, is a shallow concept. The idea that someone is not truly yours until you "reserve" them with a ring is just stupid. If someone makes you feel that way, then they are probably not the person for you. I feel like we've been engaged for many years now, and I never once felt any pressure to do this.. and that's why ultimately I decided to do it when I could. I guess I am old fashioned because I chose a diamond, and there is probably some kind of new-age, politically correct method of commencing spousal slavery, but I went for the classic method. And as for weddings, they're mostly for the mothers. So yeah, we don't have even a remote idea of "the date" yet, so don't ask! The only discussion so far has been of either eloping or an elaborate jaws themed ceremony (for the moms, of course), but in the meantime we're just too busy being happy and being ourselves.
And, oh yeah.. neither of us like the word fiance, it sounds pretentious. So you will probably never hear either of us use it. However, if I accidentally call her Beyonce, it should come in handy ;)
Tomorrow I begin my externship semester.. yay for no classes, but unfortunately I have to get up early and dress like a jerk. Also, I got a new guitar and it's incredible. That's all for now. Happy New Year!