Help!
So.. I have a wonderful new set of roommates since the last two (my brother and best friend, who were both NOT healthy around which to live) and things are emotionally going quite well!
But... my sweet, sensitive guy housemate, Kyle, is not very tidy when it comes to leaving crumbs around all over the counters, leaving surfaces sticky and gross after cooking, and not doing his dishes regularly. I often just get tired of waiting for him to load dishes into the EMPTY dishwasher after multiple days of them sitting there, and I load them for him. And I think perhaps he just thinks now that I'll just do them... AHHHH!
The problem, however, is that he's very sweet and the best housemate ever, otherwise. I've already sent out a note to him and the other housemate, but she isn't the problem at all, and so it was really directed to him. But he didn't get the point.. so what do I do? I just wrote a sticky note and placed it above the sink and his dishes saying "Dishwasher is EMPTY! (And dirty!) Please load your dishes accordingly! (And regularly!) Love, mgmt."
Was that too harsh? And also.. how can I confront him without hurting his feelings? It IS him, but I don't want him to feel like I'm attacking him.. like I said, he's a very sensitive guy.. and great otherwise as a housemate.
But... my sweet, sensitive guy housemate, Kyle, is not very tidy when it comes to leaving crumbs around all over the counters, leaving surfaces sticky and gross after cooking, and not doing his dishes regularly. I often just get tired of waiting for him to load dishes into the EMPTY dishwasher after multiple days of them sitting there, and I load them for him. And I think perhaps he just thinks now that I'll just do them... AHHHH!
The problem, however, is that he's very sweet and the best housemate ever, otherwise. I've already sent out a note to him and the other housemate, but she isn't the problem at all, and so it was really directed to him. But he didn't get the point.. so what do I do? I just wrote a sticky note and placed it above the sink and his dishes saying "Dishwasher is EMPTY! (And dirty!) Please load your dishes accordingly! (And regularly!) Love, mgmt."
Was that too harsh? And also.. how can I confront him without hurting his feelings? It IS him, but I don't want him to feel like I'm attacking him.. like I said, he's a very sensitive guy.. and great otherwise as a housemate.