This is for the situations that are going on right now.
Relationships of all kinds are like sand held in your hand. Held loosley, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold on to some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosley, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possesively, and the relationship slips away and is lost. -Kaleel jamison, the nibble theory