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Aug 10, 2006 19:48

so, i usually find relationship and dating books to be complete and utter bullshit, and absolutely not worth a second of my time. but i read an excerpt from one in this article that hits the nail right on the head, as far as my thoughts on relationships/marriage are concerned-- so right on, in fact, that i must share it with you:

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polystyrene August 11 2006, 02:15:24 UTC

I don't ever read relationship books or stuff like that. I tend to believe that if "Infidelity, boredom, financial ruin, and physical decline" are going to end a relationship, then the relationship wasn't worth having in the first place.

I understand what this writer is getting at, though... some girls (and guys) have a very unrealistic expectation of what a real, lasting relationship entails...

I also disagree, though, because I've never felt that I settled for a 20 with my husband. I never felt like I settled at all --- I feel like I'm probably the luckiest married girl I know. If 21 is the best, he's a 300.

eventide August 11 2006, 04:08:21 UTC

i would say i felt like that with my ex, too...but the idea is that you never really KNOW if there's someone better...is there always something better? and does it really, truly matter if you're happy enough with what you have?

polystyrene September 20 2007, 13:03:05 UTC

If you're constantly wondering about something better, you're doing an injustice to yourself and your partner, and not committing yourself to the relationship 100%.

I call it "one foot out the door" syndrome, and my ex had it big time... he was constantly trolling the net for someone better than me, even though we were living together. And believe me, the other person senses it.

If you're happy, be happy, and don't trouble yourself with what may be in a parallel universe. Humans think way too much.

polystyrene September 20 2007, 14:37:02 UTC

Also (sorry, this got me thinking), it's good to commit fully, because if you keep the attitude that someone out there is better, you will drop every relationship as soon as the going gets tough, and wind up alone.

It's good to appreciate what is right in front of you.

implodes August 11 2006, 03:29:19 UTC

Oh goodness (she says as she adds to her memories).

jade_faith August 11 2006, 06:26:46 UTC

Thank you for sharing that. That means a lot.