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[eva_bliss]

So yeah, about that entry I had to delete. People piss me off. So now I've had to sit down and make little groups to select from when I post. I now have to actually sit and DECIDE whom I trust enough to read certain topics from my journal. How pathetic. I can't have a general friends list because people take everything I say literally

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[calyptechen]

I never assumed that you hated Loren. RJ took off in a huff and never listened to me so you never got what I was trying to express. I was just empathizing with why Loren would not want to be around the apartment all the time. He is a third wheel in his own home, he is beginning a new life now that he is single for the first time in his adult life, and he has expressed several times that he feels you are too hard on him. I know you don't think he is a third wheel all the time but I know that is how a lot of people would feel in that situation. And I also know that you aren't neccessarily too hard on him but you do push him to improve. I'm not saying thats bad its one of the things that I'm most grateful for about you. You have turned RJs life around and I really really appreciate that. Loren needs some prodding from time to time and I'm not saying you are always wrong for doing it but its when it starts to hurt him that it goes too far. About the whole Aaron situation I still feel to this day that RJ took his dislikes of Aaron too far. Hating a good friend because you can't live with them isn't cool in my book. I know that I prolly would get on RJs nerves, and he mine, if we lived together but that doesn't mean we should hate each other. I understand your dislike of Aaron and I don't think that it is unfounded. You had reasons for disliking him and I feel they are justified. I think RJ lets others sway his opinions sometimes, not saying its a bad thing, and you have the most sway over him. I just think that he emulated your hatred for Aaron when he did not need to and could have remained on at least civil terms with the guy until he moved out. I don't hate you as Emily "assumes". Just kidding Emily. I was just trying to get RJ to think about some of the things he complained about to me. I warned him to be careful before you two moved in with Loren because I knew complaints would arrise, they always do. And now I hear the complaints and I just was trying to get him to look deeperinto the situation. I'm sorry if I made you mad but that wasn't my intention.

[eva_bliss]

RJ hates Aaron for many many reasons that don't have anything to do with living with him. There were many personal things that he did.

Loren takes everything waaay too hard. I have a dry sense of humor and everyone knows that. He just can't handle it well and falls apart waaaay too easily. Five minutes of minor picking on him sends him into a tizzy and I become "mean" or "bitchy." I just tell him the truth and treat him no differently than anyone else. He wrongly percieves it as me not liking him. Which is incorrect. I don't care I guess, if he just wants to write it off as me not liking him, then fine, he obviously doesn't want to invest any sort of sanity into the situation. I tell RJ he's shit head and everyone knows it's synonomous with sweetie pie. But if I call loren a retard, he takes it as me calling him a useless jerk. It's all a matter of taking a tiny little issue and blowing it up because he's overly sensitive.

I'm not hard on him. I just tell the truth. I'm not going to change that. If that makes me mean or hard on him, than that's ridiculous and I'm not going to change it.

A lot of people use me against RJ and it really upsets him. This situation really upset him as well considering that he and I have no idea where everyone gets there ideas about me being any ounce of influence on him. I wish I HAD more influence on his opinions.. my life would be much easier sometimes.. but I don't have any control over him.. I don't need it! He's very much his own person.

I get really upset that people talk about me like this. i get it from all sides and I never got this from anyone before I moved out here. I, and my humor was just more understood, that's all.

[calyptechen]

I don't know about RJ and Aaron's so called personal problems I tried to stay out of their business. I remained throughout the whole situation unbiased and tried to listen to both sides equally. Maybe I just have a different perspective of all the events because of that.

On Loren...Totally agree.

On using you against RJ that is not at all what I meant. I think you are great for RJ and I wouldn't use you against him. I wouldn't do anything to upset the relationship you two have. I love RJ and even if I didn't approve of you I would respect his decision to love you and would not interfere. I hope you don't feel like I have any enmity towards you and I want you to know that I support your relationship 100% even if others don't.

I've known RJ for so long and I've seen how he can be influenced. His decisions he will defend as his own time and time again but its not that simple. He quit smoking after being with you for just a few months. After years of my persistent attempts to get him to quit. If you don't believe that is influence than I don't know what influence is. Again I want to make sure that it is understood that I don't believe you would ever use your influence to harm RJ and that I don't think you "control" him. I just think that he needs to admit, at least to himself, that he lets others influence him.

I'm sorry for any trouble this caused and if I had been able to talk to RJ, rather than him storming off in a huff, then I really think I would have been able to explain all of this without it coming to this. I hope you guys don't have any hard feelings about all of this I'm just trying to help my friend.