Love is...
Love is handing your heart to someone and taking the risk that they will hand it back because they don;t want it. That's why it's such a crushing ache on the inside. We gave away a part of ourselves and it wasnt wanted.
Love is a giving away of power. When we love, we give the other person the power in the relationship. They can do what they choose. That can do what they like with our love. They can reject it, they can accept it, they can step towards us in gratitude and appreciation.
Love is a giving away. When we love, we put ourselves out there, we expose ourselves to be vulnerable.
Love is giving up control. It's surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two - love and controlling power over the other person - are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all of the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.
But this goes for both parties. If the relationship is unbalanced or there is some form of power struggle, then it is destined to fail. Equivalent exchange. Love is wanting to have this equality. Though it may experience selfishness sometimes, that is not the meaning of love. Offering the other person everything. Not out of obligation, but sincerely. Love is being willing to give up one's desires for anothers and being completely fine with it.
It really is incredibly beautiful.
Love is a giving away of power. When we love, we give the other person the power in the relationship. They can do what they choose. That can do what they like with our love. They can reject it, they can accept it, they can step towards us in gratitude and appreciation.
Love is a giving away. When we love, we put ourselves out there, we expose ourselves to be vulnerable.
Love is giving up control. It's surrendering the desire to control the other person. The two - love and controlling power over the other person - are mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all of the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.
But this goes for both parties. If the relationship is unbalanced or there is some form of power struggle, then it is destined to fail. Equivalent exchange. Love is wanting to have this equality. Though it may experience selfishness sometimes, that is not the meaning of love. Offering the other person everything. Not out of obligation, but sincerely. Love is being willing to give up one's desires for anothers and being completely fine with it.
It really is incredibly beautiful.