boys don't try
His gravestone reads: Don't Try, a phrase which he uses in one of his poems, advising aspiring writers and poets about inspiration and creativity. He explained the phrase in a 1963 letter to John William Corrington: Somebody at one of these places [...] asked me: 'What do you do? How do you write, create?' You don't, I told them. You don't try. That's very important: 'not' to try, either for Cadillacs, creation or immortality. You wait, and if nothing happens, you wait some more. It's like a bug high on the wall. You wait for it to come to you. When it gets close enough you reach out, slap out and kill it. Or if you like its looks you make a pet out of it.
It looks like its all the same about kids