The Umpteenth Prospect

[eternal_ot]

Opening the door with my spare keys I was greeted by fake smiles and their enthusiasm unnerved me a bit. Usually, I get the “we didn’t even noticed you enter” treatment. I rushed to freshen myself. When I came back to serve myself dinner, I became aware that they were nudging each other. One look in their direction and I knew the subject matter.

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[penpusher]

The whole "arranged marriage" thing is a bit puzzling. On one hand, the parents are attempting to find someone "worthy" who is willing, but also a family that is of "the right stature" which I guess is another element that is important. I don't know how mobile the caste system is, or if people even still refer to it, but I suppose people don't even have contact with people from varied castes so maybe it doesn't matter.

I guess it is good that you do get a say in agreeing to this "arrangement." I wonder how long that allowance has been available, because I'm sure that years ago, it did not exist!

From the outside looking in on this, it seems having the parents involved takes a difficult circumstance, that of finding your true love/spouse, and making it so much more of a problem! Now everybody has to be pleased, all the family members and the two who intend to marry. If we were playing Darts, it would be hitting a triple 20, six times in a row!

Good luck, though. I know how parents can place pressure when they are hoping for grandkids or whatever!

[eternal_ot]

I agree with you that it is total chaos as far as the list of things you have to tick to get married are concerned. Caste is still (sadly) a major criteria for many in arranged marriage and there is also horoscope matching which is prevalent. It pretty funny to observe as long as you yourself aren't involved.

Yeah! The horrors of not even seeing your future mate before you get married did exist. Thanks to education and liberalization things have changed :) Yet, there was one guy whose parents refuse to let the guy and girl (me) meet alone :P

You pretty much nailed the scenario. Pleasing everyone is not easy and most of the times people end up compromising for the heck of it.

Thanks. I eventually married a guy I re-connect via Facebook ( school mate) and thankfully either side of the parent didn't object to the alliance. The pressure for kid has already started as we are almost nearing our second anniversary.I'll rant about that in some other entry...;)

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