On the things you take for granted.

[estriel]

It's that kind of age we're in. My friends are getting engaged, married, have kids. I see engagement announcements, wedding pictures, pregnant bellies, red and crumpled newborn skin all over Facebook

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[dangerouss]

I know that the state won't. :( I look optimistic most of the time and I really do find things that work (like the date and place of the ceremony etc.) but I do get pissed off, too. Like... L informed her employer that she has a wife partner that is still studying - because of the taxes etc... And what did we learn? I should be her his wife since partners don't count. I thought I'd jump out of a window and go kill the polititians with a shard at that moment. O_o WTF is that supposed to mean?!

But I say I'm married because I want to be perceived like that by other people. (And I would be married if I could.) I still believe that the more you show them, the more ordinary it becomes. I know the state doesn't think so but they're people, too (however retarded O_o). When my friends think I'm married, they can spread the influence a little bit further? I know I can't change everyone's mind but I want to have a small piece in that effort. Is that too naive to believe? :/

That's true... Well, marriages have their own rules, too. But... yes, you're right, it doesn't have to be that smooth everywhere in the Czech Republic.

Ranting is a good thing.
Well, I just wanted to say that things are better than it might seem. On the other hand, no, they are not right. Yet.

Ok, now I contradict myself, don't I? :D

[estriel]

I read about the taxe issue on L's journal. I'm sorry. That's exactly the kind of unfairness that I'm talking about. in Germany, for instance, married couples get extensive tax relief (they pay lower taxes, because it looks at cummulative income) - doesn't apply to gays, of course. In Slovenia, what happened to one gay couple we know (they're not registered, but they've been together for 8 years, they live together - practically married) - one of them was studying and receiving some sort of support because her income level was low. What happened when they found out that the woman she's living with is not a flatmate, but her partner, they took away that support (or wanted to - not sure how it played out), because their total income as a couple was higher than the threshold for receiving that financial support... funny how there's a double standard - when it suits them, they will consider you a couple.

I think you've got the right attitude - I totally agree. Perception matters. :)