People
I'm not really sure what my role is with people right now. I have several friends with which I have what could be called a "half-relationship". I want to be better friends but am unsure of whether that will work. For example, I have a friend that has recently left Eugene and is considering coming back. He is unsure of how the future will unfold, and thus I am unsure of how to assert my interest in friendship.
Regardless of whether he comes back to live in the same town as me, or not, I would want to be friends. The degree and tone of the friendship, though, is greatly determined by the situation. What I mean is that if he is to stay in Portland, we will inevitably be phone buddies. Pursuing this type of friendship is much different than pursuing a friendship that will lead to varying degrees of actual hangout time. Is there really a difference, or am I crazy? Regardless, I am still left unsure of how to pursue friendships that I do not understand. It is mostly difficult because my situation in each case is so removed that it is difficult to grasp (what I feel are) important facets. For example, over the phone it is difficult to judge interest. How can I know his interest in our friendship? If I am the one doing all of the calling, is that a bad sign? I would say that it is not necessarily so since I have defiantly been on the receiving end of one-way calling-friendships before. There are still leaves questions.
I know that in the end I will figure it out, or that at least it'll be worked out. But I just wanted to express how currently I'm having difficulty knowing what to do.
Regardless of whether he comes back to live in the same town as me, or not, I would want to be friends. The degree and tone of the friendship, though, is greatly determined by the situation. What I mean is that if he is to stay in Portland, we will inevitably be phone buddies. Pursuing this type of friendship is much different than pursuing a friendship that will lead to varying degrees of actual hangout time. Is there really a difference, or am I crazy? Regardless, I am still left unsure of how to pursue friendships that I do not understand. It is mostly difficult because my situation in each case is so removed that it is difficult to grasp (what I feel are) important facets. For example, over the phone it is difficult to judge interest. How can I know his interest in our friendship? If I am the one doing all of the calling, is that a bad sign? I would say that it is not necessarily so since I have defiantly been on the receiving end of one-way calling-friendships before. There are still leaves questions.
I know that in the end I will figure it out, or that at least it'll be worked out. But I just wanted to express how currently I'm having difficulty knowing what to do.