Well, I'm going to tell you my personal truth, since I'm guessing that's what you want.
I think the difference between girlfriend and wife material is merely surface level differences. Here, I'll put it into extremes for you: If someone were only girfriend material, they would be fun, exciting, spunky, and a bit childish. Dating is more of an instant gratification, the person has to be a bit more sporatic than usual, a bit excited (not that marriage isn't exciting) and a bit more UP. The thing is though they'll probably not be very serious about the relationship...never thinking about the future, only the now.
If someone where only marriage material, it'd be nerely a complete 180. They're very very cautious about relationships, look more into the future, and are dependant from the start. See, "only daters" would not be dependant at all, ever, therefore nothing could ever develop. Marriage people are always looking for something to develop, and while they may have fun every once in awhile, usually they're too caught up in worrying about if the relationship will work. I'm not in any way saying these people are emotionally clingy though, it's just a mindset at the beginning of a relationship. A person could be really really nice and shy and she'd be more marraige material than simply dating material.
Now for you? I would say you're not the extreme of either, but to be honest, I think you're more of a marriage than a dating person. You're not very sporatic with your feelings...but much more cautious about not only hurting yourself but hurting the other person somehow. This is not to say you're not datable, I just think someone dating you would have to be an understanding, sensitive person, and a christian mindset wouldn't hurt either. (note for all you atheists: I said mindest, not just christian) I can see you making someone very very happy by settling down with them, and you'd be extremely happy as well...but I can't see you being "silly" just because you "like" someone.
How was that? Too long? I like to rant...:-/
Anywho, hope I answered your questions. This is just one guy's opinion though...
Well, I'm going to tell you my personal truth, since I'm guessing that's what you want.
I think the difference between girlfriend and wife material is merely surface level differences. Here, I'll put it into extremes for you: If someone were only girfriend material, they would be fun, exciting, spunky, and a bit childish. Dating is more of an instant gratification, the person has to be a bit more sporatic than usual, a bit excited (not that marriage isn't exciting) and a bit more UP. The thing is though they'll probably not be very serious about the relationship...never thinking about the future, only the now.
If someone where only marriage material, it'd be nerely a complete 180. They're very very cautious about relationships, look more into the future, and are dependant from the start. See, "only daters" would not be dependant at all, ever, therefore nothing could ever develop. Marriage people are always looking for something to develop, and while they may have fun every once in awhile, usually they're too caught up in worrying about if the relationship will work. I'm not in any way saying these people are emotionally clingy though, it's just a mindset at the beginning of a relationship. A person could be really really nice and shy and she'd be more marraige material than simply dating material.
Now for you? I would say you're not the extreme of either, but to be honest, I think you're more of a marriage than a dating person. You're not very sporatic with your feelings...but much more cautious about not only hurting yourself but hurting the other person somehow. This is not to say you're not datable, I just think someone dating you would have to be an understanding, sensitive person, and a christian mindset wouldn't hurt either. (note for all you atheists: I said mindest, not just christian) I can see you making someone very very happy by settling down with them, and you'd be extremely happy as well...but I can't see you being "silly" just because you "like" someone.
How was that? Too long? I like to rant...:-/
Anywho, hope I answered your questions. This is just one guy's opinion though...
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