[warning: sexual-normativity] I guess I'm renouncing the term queer?
I hate the "(heteroaromantic) asexuals aren't queer"-people. I want to punch them in the face. I just have it like, "if you want there to make some fucking rules for who're queer then you have seriously missed the fucking point of being queer, you fucking idiot". Being queer is being a deviant from the heteronormative and/or cisnormative system. This system includes more than just gender ID and the gender(s) we're attracted to. It also comes with a fit of norms on how to feel attraction, and one of these norms is being sexually attracted to someone. Being a sexual is a part of this system - and a very overlooked privilege among feminists, queer rights activists, etc.
And when they start talking about how only people who have been called this term can use it, 'cause it's aaaaall about reclaiming it? Yeah, I guess they sort of missed queer theory, the fact that queer was - not is - used mainly against homosexual men (and, hence, not all people who are "allowed" by these elitist idiots to ID as queer. Us polysexuals? Nah, no, we don't really have a history for being called queer as a slur, as this term mainly developed after people started to reclaim queer), and that queer is being adopted by more languages than English.
And apparently words can't evolve, nope, it still means the same as it did 300 years ago. Totally.
And if you oppose that shit? Then you're "a cis hetero snowflake". 'Cause only cis heteroaromantic asexuals can apparently care about inclusion in the queer community. How about we try again, fuckers? And what does this really say about the queer community? That queer people only care about the things, which affect them? No wonder then, that non-monosexuals and trans* people so often get thrown under by the heavily cis male homo-dominated queer community.
Honestly, I'm so done with this elitist shit. Sometimes the queer community comes of as a lot more restricted than the heteronormative society I live in - they might not get some things, but at least they accept it. I like men, I like women, I like genderqueers, etc. I'm romantically attracted to them. I'm sexually attracted to them. I ID as polysexual. No one would deny me the right to ID as queer, despite the work to reclaim queer is older than the term polysexual, hell, I'm younger than the fight to reclaim queer, and queer not being a native word in my language. But I will not be a part of a group of people, who should know how it feels to be outside of the norm, yet participate in alienating and silencing people, who too are outside the norm. I will not participate in this queernomativity. I will not.
I'm so done with this elitists shit. The queer community, you got some serious problems.
And when they start talking about how only people who have been called this term can use it, 'cause it's aaaaall about reclaiming it? Yeah, I guess they sort of missed queer theory, the fact that queer was - not is - used mainly against homosexual men (and, hence, not all people who are "allowed" by these elitist idiots to ID as queer. Us polysexuals? Nah, no, we don't really have a history for being called queer as a slur, as this term mainly developed after people started to reclaim queer), and that queer is being adopted by more languages than English.
And apparently words can't evolve, nope, it still means the same as it did 300 years ago. Totally.
And if you oppose that shit? Then you're "a cis hetero snowflake". 'Cause only cis heteroaromantic asexuals can apparently care about inclusion in the queer community. How about we try again, fuckers? And what does this really say about the queer community? That queer people only care about the things, which affect them? No wonder then, that non-monosexuals and trans* people so often get thrown under by the heavily cis male homo-dominated queer community.
Honestly, I'm so done with this elitist shit. Sometimes the queer community comes of as a lot more restricted than the heteronormative society I live in - they might not get some things, but at least they accept it. I like men, I like women, I like genderqueers, etc. I'm romantically attracted to them. I'm sexually attracted to them. I ID as polysexual. No one would deny me the right to ID as queer, despite the work to reclaim queer is older than the term polysexual, hell, I'm younger than the fight to reclaim queer, and queer not being a native word in my language. But I will not be a part of a group of people, who should know how it feels to be outside of the norm, yet participate in alienating and silencing people, who too are outside the norm. I will not participate in this queernomativity. I will not.
I'm so done with this elitists shit. The queer community, you got some serious problems.