Marriage?
I've been thinking about marriage lately. I'm in a stable committed relationship where its probable down the road. We live together and live like a married couple. The only difference, besides the obvious one of not having a marriage certificate, is that we are financially independent of each other. if one of us screws up royally with finances, its not going to screw the other person over as well, which i think is a positive.
and what is marriage worth anyways? half of all marriages fail. where's the sanctity in that? Ideally, its about two people committing to a lifetime together, which has some faults of its own. 1) why do you need a ceremony to be committed to each other? why is it anyone elses business? if its something you want to share, great. but why can't it also be private if you choose it to be? 2) when you're 80, how can you expect to love someone the same as when you're 25? life throws alot of twists and turns. people change and grow. people drift apart through no fault of their own. why is there so much pressure for people to stay together for a lifetime? so they can have a honeymoon period then be miserable for the rest of their lives when they drift apart 5 years later? why do they have to feel so much shame from society that their marriage "failed". i think that its great that they have the balls to realized that their marriage isn't working, and are doing something to make both of their lives happier and more honest in the long run.
and if the sole purpose of marriage is to make babies (like the political right wants everyone to believe) then why don't marriages automatically dissolve after the youngest child hits 18?
and all of these things said (and i'm sure i can say so much more) i still want that rock on my finger. how sad is that. society, even with all of its flaws that i can easily point out in only 10 minutes, still has influenced me.
and its not that i'm against people getting married. (b/c, like i said above, i want to get married someday too) i'm only questioning the institution of it, and its place in today's society.
and what is marriage worth anyways? half of all marriages fail. where's the sanctity in that? Ideally, its about two people committing to a lifetime together, which has some faults of its own. 1) why do you need a ceremony to be committed to each other? why is it anyone elses business? if its something you want to share, great. but why can't it also be private if you choose it to be? 2) when you're 80, how can you expect to love someone the same as when you're 25? life throws alot of twists and turns. people change and grow. people drift apart through no fault of their own. why is there so much pressure for people to stay together for a lifetime? so they can have a honeymoon period then be miserable for the rest of their lives when they drift apart 5 years later? why do they have to feel so much shame from society that their marriage "failed". i think that its great that they have the balls to realized that their marriage isn't working, and are doing something to make both of their lives happier and more honest in the long run.
and if the sole purpose of marriage is to make babies (like the political right wants everyone to believe) then why don't marriages automatically dissolve after the youngest child hits 18?
and all of these things said (and i'm sure i can say so much more) i still want that rock on my finger. how sad is that. society, even with all of its flaws that i can easily point out in only 10 minutes, still has influenced me.
and its not that i'm against people getting married. (b/c, like i said above, i want to get married someday too) i'm only questioning the institution of it, and its place in today's society.