Conflict resolution poll
Let's say Person A is doing something that is annoying/inconvenient to you. They do it often enough that it's not something you can easily ignore. It's not imperative that they stop this behaviour but it does grate on your nerves a bit and you would be happier if they didn't do it. How would you deal with it?
A. Say nothing to A. It's not that big a deal after all and not worth the trouble of a confrontation
B. Say nothing to A but complain about it to friends/acquaintances/LJ. It's not a huge deal but better to vent your feelings somewhere safe than make it into a bigger problem.
C. Say nothing to A then explode at them X amount of time down the road. You don't want to bitch about it behind their back because it's rude/your problem to deal with/it might get back to them/it seems like such a small thing to complain about but if A does it again while you're in the wrong mood or they just keep doing it and doing it and doing it then, well, you're only human after all, and you didn't really mean to yell at them.
D. Say something to someone else and get them to mediate between you and A. It'll be easier to talk about with a third party there who isn't involved in the behaviour.
E. Mention in to A but casually, lightly, or only in passing. Hopefully they'll pick up on it and address it without it turning into a confrontation.
F. Talk about it with A using polite, tactful language. They should realise that this is something they should address, but there's no need to throw it in their face and/or back them into a corner about it.
G. Be completely honest with A. If there's a problem there's no point trying to whitewash it. Better to confront it now than let it fester.
H. Something else not listed here
It's times like this I wish I had a paid account so I could post proper polls.
Anyway, I've tried to list all the methods I can think of and the rationale for using them. Obviously I agree with some more than others, and I'm almost 100% sure that no one ever intends to do C ;) And there are drawbacks to virtually all of them that I can think of that I haven't listed. But mostly I'm interested in a) what your own methods are, and b) what obvious stuff I've missed (and I'm sure I have since I'm fairly socially inept. This is an experiment to see how far I am in understanding other people's motivations)
A. Say nothing to A. It's not that big a deal after all and not worth the trouble of a confrontation
B. Say nothing to A but complain about it to friends/acquaintances/LJ. It's not a huge deal but better to vent your feelings somewhere safe than make it into a bigger problem.
C. Say nothing to A then explode at them X amount of time down the road. You don't want to bitch about it behind their back because it's rude/your problem to deal with/it might get back to them/it seems like such a small thing to complain about but if A does it again while you're in the wrong mood or they just keep doing it and doing it and doing it then, well, you're only human after all, and you didn't really mean to yell at them.
D. Say something to someone else and get them to mediate between you and A. It'll be easier to talk about with a third party there who isn't involved in the behaviour.
E. Mention in to A but casually, lightly, or only in passing. Hopefully they'll pick up on it and address it without it turning into a confrontation.
F. Talk about it with A using polite, tactful language. They should realise that this is something they should address, but there's no need to throw it in their face and/or back them into a corner about it.
G. Be completely honest with A. If there's a problem there's no point trying to whitewash it. Better to confront it now than let it fester.
H. Something else not listed here
It's times like this I wish I had a paid account so I could post proper polls.
Anyway, I've tried to list all the methods I can think of and the rationale for using them. Obviously I agree with some more than others, and I'm almost 100% sure that no one ever intends to do C ;) And there are drawbacks to virtually all of them that I can think of that I haven't listed. But mostly I'm interested in a) what your own methods are, and b) what obvious stuff I've missed (and I'm sure I have since I'm fairly socially inept. This is an experiment to see how far I am in understanding other people's motivations)