I just looked at this, and I'm pretty sure that you're swiping material out of my live journal entries. :p
Yes, the ever-constant jealousy battle. It's a primary reason why I've sort of stepped away from the whole relationship thing. The best way to sort of keep it in check, is to assess the reasoning behind why you are jealous. What's making you jealous? And, if it's possible, how can you go about rectifying that emotion? Is it justified, or is it based on a personal hunch?
It's taken me a LONG time to deal with this type of thing. Unfortunately most of my issues stem from paranoia and self-doubt, as I'm sure is of no surprise to you.
I can relate to what you're saying. I feel those things because I naively trusted people whom I really never should have trusted (hindsight is 20/20). As a result I am overly careful with who I emotionally invest in, and always make sure that the people I care about are not upset with me (i.e. "is *insert name* pissed off at me?*) It's my defense mechanism, pure and simple.
Dropping the wall after a bad experience always sucks. But, in order to get back in the game, that has to be what happens. Otherwise you're just a spectator, or someone who's playing expecting to lose (which I've found out drives everyone around you crazy) :p.
I hope this at least helps. Granted this is a post from long ago and you may not even be feeling this way anymore, but I just visited, so excuse my riduculously lactarded response time. :)
Yes, the ever-constant jealousy battle. It's a primary reason why I've sort of stepped away from the whole relationship thing. The best way to sort of keep it in check, is to assess the reasoning behind why you are jealous. What's making you jealous? And, if it's possible, how can you go about rectifying that emotion? Is it justified, or is it based on a personal hunch?
It's taken me a LONG time to deal with this type of thing. Unfortunately most of my issues stem from paranoia and self-doubt, as I'm sure is of no surprise to you.
I can relate to what you're saying. I feel those things because I naively trusted people whom I really never should have trusted (hindsight is 20/20). As a result I am overly careful with who I emotionally invest in, and always make sure that the people I care about are not upset with me (i.e. "is *insert name* pissed off at me?*) It's my defense mechanism, pure and simple.
Dropping the wall after a bad experience always sucks. But, in order to get back in the game, that has to be what happens. Otherwise you're just a spectator, or someone who's playing expecting to lose (which I've found out drives everyone around you crazy) :p.
I hope this at least helps. Granted this is a post from long ago and you may not even be feeling this way anymore, but I just visited, so excuse my riduculously lactarded response time. :)
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