If you want to kiss the sky by SiegeOfAngels (R)

[tehopheliac]

Title: If you want to kiss the sky
Fandom: Stargate: Atlantis
Pairing: John/Rodney
Categories: AU, Drama, hints of romance, almost angst
Length: Medium (8,400 words)
Notice/Warnings: Asexuality, Dubcon

Author on LJ: siegeofangels
Author Website: Fic Masterlist (AO3)

Summary: "Look," McKay says, pushing John away firmly, "not that I don't love excessively

Comments

[tehopheliac]

Oh, this comment is absolutely allowed! :) And, well, there aren't a lot of asexual fic in most fandoms-- especially fic that I feel actually get the gist of asexuality. I can list a few of the good ones I've bookmarked over the years, though:

Lost In Waiting, by Lacey McBain
[SGA, Mckay/Sheppard]
Summary: Rodney, because he’s Rodney, manages to sound offended that John didn’t tell him all his secrets. It’s the reason John’s still talking to him, the only reason he’s not on the other side of the room. He isn’t sure when a cranky scientist became the definition of comfort for him, but his life’s always been a little screwed up so he supposes this is just par for the course. “What was I supposed to say, Rodney? I’m a 38-year-old virgin who really hates being touched?”

True, by Farfalla
[Star Trek (TOS), Kirk/Spock]
Summary: "Give up--climax?" Spock looked at him, astonished. "Jim, I do not require you to relinquish your body's natural functions! I could no more ask you to stop consumption of food or air, and the resulting outcome would do me as little good and as much harm."

Asexual!Comment Fic, by Anonymous
[Star Trek, Kirk/Spock]
Summary: Kirk fucking loves sex. No, really, he does. Just, not in the way that everyone else seems to 'cause he's not so concerned with the whole physical thing. So he may pretend he's getting off on it, but that's all it is, a performance, put on for the benefit of someone else and fuck if he 'aint good at it.

And here are a few more asexual!fic recs (not mine) if you're interested. Some of them are m/m while others aren't.

And, if you're interested in reading still more, I suggest you watch BBC's Sherlock as I've heard that there's a HUGE majority of asexual m/m fic in that fandom (there's also a Asexual Fandom Community. :) I'd have headed on over to that fandom myself, but I've heard one too many rants/explanations from fellow asexuals about how people don't understand what asexuality actually entails and proceed to write fic "curing" Sherlock's asexuality like it's a disease. That pretty much ruins any desire I have to explore the fandom since that's personally offensive to me.

You could also check out AO3's asexuality tag and use the filters to weed out all of the fic that isn't m/m. :)

Please let me know if I've managed to help you out. Oh! And if you have any questions about Asexuality, please feel free to ask. :)

[tehopheliac]

Heh, you're very welcome (it was my pleasure! ♥). :)

Kirk/McCoy, eh? xD I've read a few of them (and they were cute!), but I tend to prefer most of my ships to have some friction/issues with each other to overcome (I love my angst!). I can't help it-- the first ship I was ever completely exposed to was Snape/Harry and I rarely come across many pairings with more dislike for one another (in a compelling way, at least) than that.

Haha! I can't say I'm an expert at asexuality either. All I can say is that I have more experience with it than most (literally!), but since there are so many aspects and different types of asexuality, I'm no where near an expert (though I'd like to think I can spot a bad assumption or stereotype when I see it-- you'd be surprised!). :)

Fascinating? Really? ♥ It feels good to be noticed every once in a while-- asexuality is usually so invisible (something that many ace's are perturbed by).

Anyway, I actually have an interesting article that mentions something like what you did about love (read the whole thing-- it has vague Star Trek references and it's written by and to people who aren't asexual to give you an idea of what it's like to be asexual!):

"Is sex truly the be-all and end-all of love? For a sexual, it is a key part of bonding, but is it the only possible expression of physical love? What of hugging, kissing, caressing lightly, snuggling, cuddling, and giving an arm in support? Is sex the only thing that cements a relationship? What of empathy, understanding, affection, patience, steadfastness, loyalty, honor, companionship, and shared wisdom?

If we forget so much else and define human relations by sex alone, then what does that say about us?"

[tehopheliac]

XD Really? See, I absolutely don't have that problem. Sometimes I suspect that I purposely seek to destroy my childhood the fandom way-- though, to be fair, I was IN slash fandom when I was 10 years old, so, it wasn't much of a stretch back then. xD

I'm glad you found it interesting! :) I thought that article (with the eyebrows) most aptly described asexuality. It's one of the first articles I recommend to people when they want to know what asexuality is like. :)

[allyndra]

If you would like to try some respectful fic in which Sherlock is asexual, I can recommend Horse and Carriage series and What Makes Us Rich series, both by flawedamythyst. Both series are Sherlock Holmes/John Watson in which Sherlock is asexual but not aromantic, and I really love seeing the navigate their relationship so that it's satisfying to both of them. The first story in What Makes Us Rich does involve sex, but Sherlock's asexuality isn't cured (nor seen as a thing to be cured).

Should disclaim that I am not asexual? :)