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I'm sorry if it bothers me when a friend says they want to die all the time, drama or no.. I called you friend, so of course I'm going to listen to what you said and try to help you out.
All you managed to do in that post, though is reply to what I was saying about Anthony, there was more in it. Maybe you're busy at work, or you don't really care enough to read that whole thing. It's fine.. we can just talk about Anthony, then, if that's all you care to reply about.
I think you've always been selfish, not at this serious emotional level, though. Maybe that's why I have such a problem with you now. At any rate.. I don't like people being selfish at any time. You can take care of yourself just fine while still being considerate and kind to others.
"Don't think that I don't care about Anthony's feelings for me..." - You have said you don't -plenty of times-. That's what made me mad at you in the first place. Make up your mind please.. don't speak out of hurt when you it will cause hurt. So.. from what you say, it sounds like he's still trying to charm you into being his gf? I'm not Anthony, or you, so I couldn't tell you for sure, but I thought I've heard him say that it's ok not being with you, he just wants to be your friend. Granted.. a friend that's in love with you isn't the same thing, even the friendship can't be the same. Even if he is, though.. cutting ties is -much- better than just being cruel until he stops.
You have some twisted views of selfishness and selflessness.. Being selfish is never ok, at the expense of others. Being selfless like you said, not letting your ex, or potential bf know that you are hurting.. that isn't right either. It's perfectly acceptable to just show your feelings instead of bottling everything up inside. That's self destructive, not a very bright idea. Maybe you just need to learn and get a little more experience.. grow up a little.
Again.. you have a twisted view on things.. It's not possible to find a bf while being a friend to Anthony at the same time? No one has the right to stop you from doing both, not Anthony or Adrian.
It's no ones fault but your own that you spent more time with Anthony than Adrian. What you do with your time is your choice and no one has the right to make that choice for you.
"But how he handles it, is completely mindless. " - Sorry, but you're not one to talk.. I'm not one to talk..
It wouldn't be ok with him..? Hello? Does he have a choice if you don't want to see him again? There's nothing he can do about it.. If you're going to stop showing sympathy and empathy.. just be cruel, then you might as well cut ties right now. It's the best thing for both of you if that's the way you're going to be about it. I know he makes mistakes, you don't have to tell me that. If he is really still trying and hopeful that you'll be with him.. then he needs to be set straight on that. If he can't be, then I already told you what the best option is.
*Sigh* Maybe I am the freak, maybe it's my ideals that are twisted..
All you managed to do in that post, though is reply to what I was saying about Anthony, there was more in it. Maybe you're busy at work, or you don't really care enough to read that whole thing. It's fine.. we can just talk about Anthony, then, if that's all you care to reply about.
I think you've always been selfish, not at this serious emotional level, though. Maybe that's why I have such a problem with you now. At any rate.. I don't like people being selfish at any time. You can take care of yourself just fine while still being considerate and kind to others.
"Don't think that I don't care about Anthony's feelings for me..." - You have said you don't -plenty of times-. That's what made me mad at you in the first place. Make up your mind please.. don't speak out of hurt when you it will cause hurt. So.. from what you say, it sounds like he's still trying to charm you into being his gf? I'm not Anthony, or you, so I couldn't tell you for sure, but I thought I've heard him say that it's ok not being with you, he just wants to be your friend. Granted.. a friend that's in love with you isn't the same thing, even the friendship can't be the same. Even if he is, though.. cutting ties is -much- better than just being cruel until he stops.
You have some twisted views of selfishness and selflessness.. Being selfish is never ok, at the expense of others. Being selfless like you said, not letting your ex, or potential bf know that you are hurting.. that isn't right either. It's perfectly acceptable to just show your feelings instead of bottling everything up inside. That's self destructive, not a very bright idea. Maybe you just need to learn and get a little more experience.. grow up a little.
Again.. you have a twisted view on things.. It's not possible to find a bf while being a friend to Anthony at the same time? No one has the right to stop you from doing both, not Anthony or Adrian.
It's no ones fault but your own that you spent more time with Anthony than Adrian. What you do with your time is your choice and no one has the right to make that choice for you.
"But how he handles it, is completely mindless. " - Sorry, but you're not one to talk.. I'm not one to talk..
It wouldn't be ok with him..? Hello? Does he have a choice if you don't want to see him again? There's nothing he can do about it.. If you're going to stop showing sympathy and empathy.. just be cruel, then you might as well cut ties right now. It's the best thing for both of you if that's the way you're going to be about it. I know he makes mistakes, you don't have to tell me that. If he is really still trying and hopeful that you'll be with him.. then he needs to be set straight on that. If he can't be, then I already told you what the best option is.
*Sigh* Maybe I am the freak, maybe it's my ideals that are twisted..