once more, with FEELING!

Mar 31, 2010 11:29

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surrealestate March 31 2010, 18:26:39 UTC
I asked this elsewhere, but nobody responded. I don't actually expect you to know everything, but another pov is always useful. (I've had this conversation with trans and cis friends before.)

How does any person know if they are supposed to be a guy/gal?

(And where is the line between subverting whatever paradigms and actually belonging on the other side?)

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entrope March 31 2010, 18:38:31 UTC
Oh, good one. I can't answer for anyone else, but I can answer for myself ( ... )

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beah March 31 2010, 19:22:58 UTC
That is an awesome parenting moment!

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maevele March 31 2010, 21:28:22 UTC
awwww, why is it that the kids get this stuff so fucking easy? My three and a half year old says I am a boirl.

and a lot of your part of how you came to it is a lot like mine. this is getting eerie.

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entrope March 31 2010, 21:32:03 UTC
Yeah, the kids are very simple, aren't they?

The similarities are quite astonishing, aren't they? I didn't know that your path was similar to mine, but it somehow doesn't seem surprising.

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veek April 1 2010, 02:18:06 UTC
I can't stop saying "boirl" and giggling at how it feels to pronounce.

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taxishoes March 31 2010, 23:02:41 UTC
How is anyone supposed to know if they are supposed to be a guy/gal if no one really knows what a "guy" is or what a "gal" is?

I think it depends on what is meant by the words/question.

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surrealestate March 31 2010, 23:09:40 UTC
How is anyone supposed to know if they are supposed to be a guy/gal if no one really knows what a "guy" is or what a "gal" is?

That may be so, but clearly a large number of people feel pretty certain about it one way or the other.

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taxishoes March 31 2010, 23:16:40 UTC
Apparently not thinking too hard about it makes one more qualified to answer this question.

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surrealestate March 31 2010, 23:23:20 UTC
I'm not sure what you're saying here. Are you implying that I haven't thought about it or that people who feel pretty certain about falling onto one side or the other haven't?

(The choice of words, btw, was in response to a statement in a mutual friend's post (which may have prompted this post) where she asked the question of whether certain things meant she was "supposed to be a guy".)

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taxishoes April 1 2010, 00:12:51 UTC
Most questions, the more you've thought about them, the easier it is to come up with an answer or at least a summary of what your longer answer would be. In my experience, the people who have thought about gender more often have difficulty answering the most simple questions about it. But they could write a book.

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entrope March 31 2010, 23:09:56 UTC
Good point. I interpreted it as "what made me think I didn't fit in the girl category" but you're absolutely right.

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taxishoes March 31 2010, 23:17:22 UTC
Thanks. Yeah I've never had a problem with not fitting in the girl category; it's the picking one or the other, and what are they anyway, etc.

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