Dating Story #4
So.... yeah. I met this guy who I will accurately and affectionately call "Looser". I spell it "Looser" instead of the more correct "Loser" because he was such a loser he can't even properly spell his own label. Anyhow, I digress.
Looser was very interested in dating me. He's 42, but age never bugs me. A young 42 is the same as an old 25. We talked online a few times, and, you know, he seemed okay. I mean, I wasn't on fire to meet him, but sometimes people can come across awkwardly in text and be just charming in person, so I hate to decide based on writing. I will admit that his lack of spelling skills irritated me -- I guess I'm kind of a snob or something -- but that's okay. Not everyone can be an English major.
So Looser and I were talking, and it came out that he has some financial troubles. Ruh roh. He also lives at home. Double ruh roh. He also doesn't have a vehicle, works 4 hours a week, and is on disability for a bad back. He gave me this litany of reasons that I would never in a million years want to date him, and then at the end, hit me with this:
"I can't perform sexually with a woman. I mean, I can on my own, but I get too intimidated when a woman is anywhere near me."
How does a lady reply to that? I just sat there looking at my screen, typing, erasing, and retyping various things. Finally I just said, "Oh." That's all I could come up with! He replied, wondering if the combination of these things would be a dealbreaker. I was shocked. Did he READ my profile? "Hi! I'm an ambitious, goal-oriented lady who works full time, goes to school full time, and wants a house, a family, yada yada." How in a million years would he think we'd be compatible? I digress....
I said, "well, honestly... I really am not sure we are at the same place in life. The older I get, the less time I have to really wait around. Plus, your lack of transportation would put the burden wholly on me, and I have work and school full-time... I just don't think this would work for me."
He honestly had no idea why I would find it strange that a 42 year old man has never lived on his own. I think, honestly, the thing that gets me the most isn't that he's so low-functioning. It's that he doesn't understand why an ambitious person wouldn't want to date him. I don't want a child. I want a partner. With a libido. With a job. With a future.
I hate dating. I really really hate dating. Have I mentioned that I'm sick of dating?
Looser was very interested in dating me. He's 42, but age never bugs me. A young 42 is the same as an old 25. We talked online a few times, and, you know, he seemed okay. I mean, I wasn't on fire to meet him, but sometimes people can come across awkwardly in text and be just charming in person, so I hate to decide based on writing. I will admit that his lack of spelling skills irritated me -- I guess I'm kind of a snob or something -- but that's okay. Not everyone can be an English major.
So Looser and I were talking, and it came out that he has some financial troubles. Ruh roh. He also lives at home. Double ruh roh. He also doesn't have a vehicle, works 4 hours a week, and is on disability for a bad back. He gave me this litany of reasons that I would never in a million years want to date him, and then at the end, hit me with this:
"I can't perform sexually with a woman. I mean, I can on my own, but I get too intimidated when a woman is anywhere near me."
How does a lady reply to that? I just sat there looking at my screen, typing, erasing, and retyping various things. Finally I just said, "Oh." That's all I could come up with! He replied, wondering if the combination of these things would be a dealbreaker. I was shocked. Did he READ my profile? "Hi! I'm an ambitious, goal-oriented lady who works full time, goes to school full time, and wants a house, a family, yada yada." How in a million years would he think we'd be compatible? I digress....
I said, "well, honestly... I really am not sure we are at the same place in life. The older I get, the less time I have to really wait around. Plus, your lack of transportation would put the burden wholly on me, and I have work and school full-time... I just don't think this would work for me."
He honestly had no idea why I would find it strange that a 42 year old man has never lived on his own. I think, honestly, the thing that gets me the most isn't that he's so low-functioning. It's that he doesn't understand why an ambitious person wouldn't want to date him. I don't want a child. I want a partner. With a libido. With a job. With a future.
I hate dating. I really really hate dating. Have I mentioned that I'm sick of dating?