Tom
So I thought it was pretty funny that the drummer of a band that I'm out supporting ever weekend has the nerve to be an asshole, but not only that, but to call me immature yet he always starts shit with me through myspace. Our most recent argument:
From: Kinetic Metal
Date: Aug 23, 2006 9:36 AM
Alysia,
Thanks for coming to our shows and showing so much love and support! I do, however, think you should really keep it on the down-low about you hanging out at Timmy D's so much. The place is 21 & over, and occasionally they make exceptions for 18 yr olds. But by broadcasting that you're hanging out there, you not only put yourself at an unneccessary risk, but also you put Timmy D's at risk. They have lost their liquor license before for having minors in there. You just gotta keep it quiet, and that also includes bragging to your friends, because word of mouth moves. Thanks for understanding, maybe I'm paranoid, but we depend on that place staying open, it sucked when it was closed for about 9 months. Just use common sense
Tom
From: ~Alysia~
Date: Aug 23, 2006 12:07 PM
Well thanks for your concern I guess, but as far as i'm concerned there's nobody reading that who would have such intentions. The people on my friends list are my friends, and I don't neccessarily think that I am bragging by telling about my weekend. No one yet has had any problems with me being there. Timmy d as well as his mom both know I am underage and she tells me it's fine I just better not drink in there. I respect that by doing just that.
And if you are worried about them being open, i do respect that, and I will take down that blog if that makes you happy....
But I think its more then concern, because honestly I get this feeling you don't want me there(correct me if im wrong) ,and that's fine. I think you seem alittle annoyed that i'm there, especially when I stayed outside after you told us to go back in, but I was alittle annoyed by the fact you kept trying to tell me to go in the bar that night too, because I dont think it was your place to tell me that, who the fuck are you? It is not illegal to be outside of a bar, especially if you're under 18 and you're worried about people being outside because the cops might come, it looks a hell of a lot better that I'm outside talking to people then inside hanging out in a bar. I guess I dont take to well with people trying to tell me what to do when they don't work there and aren't family or someone with concern about what's really going on. Some people don't have a problem with that, but I do. I might be the kid there, but I'm not yours so please just don't worry about it. And I'm sorry if that sounded alittle bitchy but i figured while we were giving our two cents, I'd add mine as well. So I'm sure you won't be to happy with that answer and I'm sure you'll hold one of those world famous tom grudges I'm always hearing about it, but so be it.
The bulletins and blogs are gone, hope that's good enough for you.
From: Kinetic Metal
Date: Aug 23, 2006
"tom grudges"?? see, now I just think you are trying to strike a nerve like you have in the past. First off, I don't really give a fuck who you are or how you feel about people telling you what to do, because in that situation last weekend, you and alot of other people had absolutely no business being outside, which is why I had to force people inside for the good of everyone. Do you honestly think we would have gotten that thing back without major problems if someone didn't flat out take charge?? btw, I didn't say take the blog down, but its pretty obvious you're taking extra effort to point out that you are not of age, but hanging out there anyways. Maybe its for reasons other than just trying to look cool, but you need to be careful. Are your blogs set to friends only? And thanks for being inclined to share your thoughts, but in cases like last weekend, you need to learn to do what the fuck you are told. If that guy comes back and starts a brawl, or worse, you're an innocent bystander that shouldn't have been there anyways. What if you would have got hurt? Who do you think would get sued? Oh, sorry, you don't think about shit like that, because you're still a kid. I wouldn't talk down to you if you were acting like an adult. Don't act like you know everything, when you don't. You can also loose the rebellious to everything attitude. I never said or incinuated I didn't want you at the shows, but you are being very stupid about it. Now, you can hate me for better reason other than trying to do what I felt was the best interest for everyone in that situation. And based on our personal experiences, I'm in a far better position to make that call than you.
Ok, the bolded part was the part that pretty much pissed me off....
But I know tom, we've gone through this shit before and if there's one thing i've learned about him is that he ALWAYS has to have the last word, and he HAS to be right. SO fuck it, I decide not to respond to this.
so Later in the day I post a bulletin about how i've had a shitty day.
----------------- Bulletin Message -----------------
From: ~Alysia~
Date: Aug 23, 2006 8:30 PM
So i had a pretty crappy day and I'm feeling pretty stressed out about some things that happend today, and to top it off my sister just hung up on me, I HATE when people hang up on me....ever get that feeling the worlds against you when you're having a really bad day
From: Kinetic Metal
Date: Aug 23, 2006 9:00 PM
well, I'm sure I didn't help that out. I apologize for coming off like a big meany. I'm sure its a small chance that something could have happened with the whole underage thing, but I'm just overly cautious like that sometimes. Ya just gotta keep things on the D.L. is all I was originally trying to say. I'm sure this was a small prt of a what sounds like a crappy day, but if it helps, I really am sorry.
I wouldn't be pist at your sister either. She's just one of those types that is only happy when she's pist off. kinda sounds like someone else you know, huh? My day has been extremely stressful as well and I'm nearly heart-broken about some of the events that did or did not take place today. so I guess it was just a shitty day all the way around for a few of us.
Tom
HOLY SHIT AN APOLOGY FROM TOM!! THATS NEVER HAPPEND!!! HES A CHANGED MAN!! so i decide to be nice and apologize also.
From: ~Alysia~
So I'm gonna admit I was kinda pissed about that...but an apology was unexpected and that makes me feel alot better about you. You're probably right about the whole keep it on a DL and I will from now on.
I was out to strick a nerve I suppose, but with the tom grudges thing, its just someone told me once, dont piss him off he holds long grudges.
I was thinking one of the reasons you probably said I didn't act like an adult, or I was immature was I was fighting with my sister that night. Probably seems like an immature thing to do, but you don't know her THAT well and it's hard not to do.
One thing about that whole conversation though...I honestly don't want to be the girl there that nobody wants there. The one that everyones like...oh shit its her again, so if you and other people DON'T like me there, I will stop comming. Believe it or not i'm not just there to be a pain in the ass. And no matter what I say when I'm mad I do care what you and other people think about me and about me being there. I'll try not to be such a pain in the ass, and listen next time.
But apologies mean alot to me. And you saying "heres another reason to hate me" you were probably right, that's probably what I was looking for. But I don't hate you, i just think something about you kinda rubbed me the wrong way at first...and then I haven't talked to you much and when i have, it's been like this. But yeah...sorry on my part too, it did start off as keep it on the DL and I turned it alittle more hostile. sorry, hope today's better for you.
I'm a nice person.
I'm glad that whole things over....jesus.