Re: Can I be friendedw_unicornFebruary 24 2007, 00:39:36 UTC
Well, life happening is a good reason to not have time for writing fanfiction. You've got a lot to be getting on with.
I hope things are running smoothly these days. There are days I wish I was "young" again, but I wouldn't go back to the rollercoaster days of college for big money. I'm not ancient but almost 47 is double your age.
I can relate to the Greg/Jay issue - mine was named Michael and it took me two years to finally get my shit together and kick him to the curb. I was convenient and it took me a while to figure it out (or believe that was the case). I picked up and left for people who loved me even when I "only wanted to be friends" and still cared enough to support me.
It's a hard thing to do especially if you like where you are other than the friend situation. Putting distance between someone you've invested so much in emotionally is never easy - being strong is hard. Take your REAL friends with you when you have to be around them and show them you have better things to do and people to be with.
Only you can decide what's best for you - take care of yourself and the rest will fall into place.
Re: Can I be friendedendilwen_09February 24 2007, 13:52:21 UTC
Wow, thanks for such a lengthy and supportive comment, I really appreciate it :) Things are bumpy as you can probably tell... I'm really sorry that you can relate to my issues with Jay and Greg, because I wouldn't want anyone to ever know what it feels like to be so low about someone you love so much. But I am getting things together now (it's been a year), I've gotten back with some old friends and we've made plans to do things and go places, so keeping busy really helps :) *runs off to read your journal*
Re: Can I be friendedw_unicornFebruary 24 2007, 14:12:15 UTC
I don't really update my journal. I'm a "lurker" that spends time trying to find good hp/dm stories to read. I friend authors to read and sometimes offer comments on stories.
Reading what you have been through with your various friends and it took me back to those same times I'd been through similar things.
I'm very lucky to have not LOTS of friends but VERY GOOD friends. They helped me through a variety of rough times. Luckily - I had fewer rough times than I could have, but when they were rough they were really rough.
At times my friends haven't been physically close to me they are still there for me. I miss being able to get in a car with them and just drive along the river. (That was always a calming thing for me.) I was lucky to find a good friend or two in the places I lived - at one point in time I'd lived in six states ten years - between going to college and finally landing in NY. (I've lived here for over 10 years now.)
Sometimes I think back to Michael (my Jay/Greg experience) and think how stupid I felt. Then I wonder if they ever grew up and GOT why I cut all ties with them, but not for long. They made their choices - I just made better ones. I also believe that KARMA is a wonderful thing and know that someday they will understand how I felt because someone will treat them the same.
Anyway - I'm glad you feel you are making progress. You've grown a lot in a year...just keep striving to be the best you can be for yourself and the rest will fall into place.
I hope things are running smoothly these days. There are days I wish I was "young" again, but I wouldn't go back to the rollercoaster days of college for big money. I'm not ancient but almost 47 is double your age.
I can relate to the Greg/Jay issue - mine was named Michael and it took me two years to finally get my shit together and kick him to the curb. I was convenient and it took me a while to figure it out (or believe that was the case). I picked up and left for people who loved me even when I "only wanted to be friends" and still cared enough to support me.
It's a hard thing to do especially if you like where you are other than the friend situation. Putting distance between someone you've invested so much in emotionally is never easy - being strong is hard. Take your REAL friends with you when you have to be around them and show them you have better things to do and people to be with.
Only you can decide what's best for you - take care of yourself and the rest will fall into place.
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Things are bumpy as you can probably tell... I'm really sorry that you can relate to my issues with Jay and Greg, because I wouldn't want anyone to ever know what it feels like to be so low about someone you love so much. But I am getting things together now (it's been a year), I've gotten back with some old friends and we've made plans to do things and go places, so keeping busy really helps :)
*runs off to read your journal*
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Reading what you have been through with your various friends and it took me back to those same times I'd been through similar things.
I'm very lucky to have not LOTS of friends but VERY GOOD friends. They helped me through a variety of rough times. Luckily - I had fewer rough times than I could have, but when they were rough they were really rough.
At times my friends haven't been physically close to me they are still there for me. I miss being able to get in a car with them and just drive along the river. (That was always a calming thing for me.) I was lucky to find a good friend or two in the places I lived - at one point in time I'd lived in six states ten years - between going to college and finally landing in NY. (I've lived here for over 10 years now.)
Sometimes I think back to Michael (my Jay/Greg experience) and think how stupid I felt. Then I wonder if they ever grew up and GOT why I cut all ties with them, but not for long. They made their choices - I just made better ones. I also believe that KARMA is a wonderful thing and know that someday they will understand how I felt because someone will treat them the same.
Anyway - I'm glad you feel you are making progress. You've grown a lot in a year...just keep striving to be the best you can be for yourself and the rest will fall into place.
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