Enchantress using her head
So, it seems that my good intentions can really screw things up. It happens all the time really. On the small scale, for example, I get a call from one of my best-est friends from Austin, and somehow the phone disconnects. When my phone rings, I answer it, but it happens to be someone else (the guy for whom I am RAing). I really don't want to talk to him at that moment, of course, because I was in deep conversation with my friend, but I also don't want him to feel like he is not important. Thus, I let him talk, and I answer in clipped phrases, thinking that if I answer quickly, it will somehow make the conversation shorter. Of course not. I want him to not feel like his call isn't important so I don't tell him that I was on the other line with my best-est friend, but he ends up feeling unimportant because I am not really into the conversation. Clearly, this is me using my head, enchantress says sarcastically. The sad thing is I do this all the time. I want people to feel good about themselves, so I do what is "best" for them, while it is not so good for me, and, in the end, ends up being good for no one. Sigh.