Reteaching Gender and Sexuality
I really like the message this is sending out.
And it's very true, about the entire culture of DADT. And the concept of coming out. I hate being hit on by men, or asked if I have a husband or if I'm married just because I don't fit the stereotypical look of a lesbian. I hate that people just won't ask if I have a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend. And I hate that their perception changes instantly when they find out I'm gay.
I hate the way my coworkers will constantly tell me I'm gay just because I haven't found the right guy yet. And keep on with the idea until I yell at them and storm off to the back room, and then they tell me not to be so sensitive, that they were only joking.
I hate that I can't tell them I'm asexual because they wouldn't get it. And I hate that when I do tell people I'm asexual they automatically assume it's because I've never had sex, or that I was abused, or that I haven't met the right person.
I hate that I can't talk about being bigender either, because they would automatically equate it with being bisexual.
I hate that I can't tell people I have two girlfriends, or that they live in different areas and we stay in contact via the internet. I hate idiot men asking me if I've had any hot sex lately, or that I'd sleep with a married woman. Like my sex life is any of your fucking business you asshole. I hate it when men ask if they can watch, like the concept of being a lesbian was invented so they can get their rocks off.
I hate that no matter how open minded people say they are, the moment you start talking about gay issues, they get uncomfortable. Seriously people, the fact that gay and bisexual teens are 300% more likely to commit suicide is not the same thing as me talking about making out with a girl. Grow the fuck up.
I hate that my own mother, who is bisexual, seems to think that I'm not gay because I don't leap on every woman I see and try to rip their clothes off with my teeth.
I hate having to explain things from the "Gay" POV to my straight friends because otherwise they just won't get it. As an example of this, the Karofsky/Hummel locker room scene in Episode 6 of Glee.
I also hate when other straight friends, always make sure to sleep on the opposite side of the room as me for fear that I might molest them in their sleep. That one, hurts. I hate when women feel the need to tell me that they're straight, because otherwise I might rip their clothes off and ravage them against their will.
I hate being hit on by straight girls in the bar playing lesbian for free drinks.
And I hate being told it's a choice.
How is it that we live in a culture where you can only be 'gay' if you fit the stereotype? Where if your macho, or pretty, people will constantly doubt you. Tell you it's a choice, and that it's just because you haven't tried sex with a member of the opposite gender.
Well, that's my rant. It feels good to get this off my chest, because I've been carrying that around for a long fucking time.
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And it's very true, about the entire culture of DADT. And the concept of coming out. I hate being hit on by men, or asked if I have a husband or if I'm married just because I don't fit the stereotypical look of a lesbian. I hate that people just won't ask if I have a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend. And I hate that their perception changes instantly when they find out I'm gay.
I hate the way my coworkers will constantly tell me I'm gay just because I haven't found the right guy yet. And keep on with the idea until I yell at them and storm off to the back room, and then they tell me not to be so sensitive, that they were only joking.
I hate that I can't tell them I'm asexual because they wouldn't get it. And I hate that when I do tell people I'm asexual they automatically assume it's because I've never had sex, or that I was abused, or that I haven't met the right person.
I hate that I can't talk about being bigender either, because they would automatically equate it with being bisexual.
I hate that I can't tell people I have two girlfriends, or that they live in different areas and we stay in contact via the internet. I hate idiot men asking me if I've had any hot sex lately, or that I'd sleep with a married woman. Like my sex life is any of your fucking business you asshole. I hate it when men ask if they can watch, like the concept of being a lesbian was invented so they can get their rocks off.
I hate that no matter how open minded people say they are, the moment you start talking about gay issues, they get uncomfortable. Seriously people, the fact that gay and bisexual teens are 300% more likely to commit suicide is not the same thing as me talking about making out with a girl. Grow the fuck up.
I hate that my own mother, who is bisexual, seems to think that I'm not gay because I don't leap on every woman I see and try to rip their clothes off with my teeth.
I hate having to explain things from the "Gay" POV to my straight friends because otherwise they just won't get it. As an example of this, the Karofsky/Hummel locker room scene in Episode 6 of Glee.
I also hate when other straight friends, always make sure to sleep on the opposite side of the room as me for fear that I might molest them in their sleep. That one, hurts. I hate when women feel the need to tell me that they're straight, because otherwise I might rip their clothes off and ravage them against their will.
I hate being hit on by straight girls in the bar playing lesbian for free drinks.
And I hate being told it's a choice.
How is it that we live in a culture where you can only be 'gay' if you fit the stereotype? Where if your macho, or pretty, people will constantly doubt you. Tell you it's a choice, and that it's just because you haven't tried sex with a member of the opposite gender.
Well, that's my rant. It feels good to get this off my chest, because I've been carrying that around for a long fucking time.