Boy do I feel like an asshole...
So...Jen. Tony's Jen. They've been together something like 9 years or so. I've never been a big fan of her and she has never been a big fan of me nor my parents. I gave her the benefit of the doubt when first we met but she soon proved not to deserve it as she encouraged Tony not to see or talk to us and was pretty rude to me and my mom. Yes, I know it sounds like I am blaming her for something over which my brother has free choice but Tony has no backbone and is too lazy to control his own life so she took over long ago. Sad, but true.
These past few years she has become somewhat social and even kind of fun to have around for that one day I see Tony a year, sometime after Christmas. Tony and Jen were planning on being around Syracuse for the 30th and I had emailed Tony to ask what Jen wanted for Christmas. I got no response, but it takes him weeks to respond to my emails so I thought nothing of it.
Well, today I get an email from Tony entitled "life crisis." Inside all that was written was that he and Jen had broken up and not to ask him about it yet. Wow. My brother is an insensitive and emotionless cretin so to know that he is pretty upset is hard to deal with. It must be bad. I've gone back and forth about the idea of emailing him and saying he can call me if he needs anything or not. What do you say in that situation?
I feel like a real jerk. Whenever Tony would say something less than ideal about Jen and their relationship part of me would wish they would break up and he would find someone better for him that appreciated and encouraged him rather than keeping him away from all his family and friends for fear that if he did anything he'd leave. Maybe he should have. 9 years! I can't imagine. I hope he's okay.
I can't believe I wished that they would break up all these years and now that they have I feel bad for ever even thinking about it. I wonder if this is how everyone felt about me and my exes...I want him to be happy but know he deserves better so I just let him make up his own mind as I silently watch the trainwreck. :-(
Everyone around me breaks up at the same time. Its never just one couple. It comes in seasons. My season has alway been spring. We'll see.
These past few years she has become somewhat social and even kind of fun to have around for that one day I see Tony a year, sometime after Christmas. Tony and Jen were planning on being around Syracuse for the 30th and I had emailed Tony to ask what Jen wanted for Christmas. I got no response, but it takes him weeks to respond to my emails so I thought nothing of it.
Well, today I get an email from Tony entitled "life crisis." Inside all that was written was that he and Jen had broken up and not to ask him about it yet. Wow. My brother is an insensitive and emotionless cretin so to know that he is pretty upset is hard to deal with. It must be bad. I've gone back and forth about the idea of emailing him and saying he can call me if he needs anything or not. What do you say in that situation?
I feel like a real jerk. Whenever Tony would say something less than ideal about Jen and their relationship part of me would wish they would break up and he would find someone better for him that appreciated and encouraged him rather than keeping him away from all his family and friends for fear that if he did anything he'd leave. Maybe he should have. 9 years! I can't imagine. I hope he's okay.
I can't believe I wished that they would break up all these years and now that they have I feel bad for ever even thinking about it. I wonder if this is how everyone felt about me and my exes...I want him to be happy but know he deserves better so I just let him make up his own mind as I silently watch the trainwreck. :-(
Everyone around me breaks up at the same time. Its never just one couple. It comes in seasons. My season has alway been spring. We'll see.