One of those friends list maintenance posts
I'm slowly trying to get my friends list into more manageable levels. I went away for a few days and even though I was actually checking LJ some of the time, I ended up with a friends page stretching back to skip 200. I can only hope that I do this whole "having a life" thing more often in the future, which leaves me even less time for LJ.
If I've defriended you recently, or if I do so in the future, it's probably not because I OMG HATE you or anything. Much more likely to be a combination of needing to make it smaller (both for reading and so I feel more comfortable writing here again, because it's been difficult sometimes recently), and not feeling as close to or having much in common with you as others on my list. I know I'll end up keeping people who I don't have much in common with or aren't really close to either, but I sometimes find it interesting being able to get a window in to people's lives that I would otherwise not get out in the real world. This list isn't a true reflection of who my friends are and who I like the best, so I hope people don't take it too personally and think that I like them less than random!person who's still on there or anything, because it's not quite how I use my friends list.
Being defriended always sucks (unless you've secretly been wanting to defriend that person yourself - for that matter, if you have secretly been wanting to defriend me, now is a good time to do it because I probably won't take it badly! Only don't all rush at once or I'll get paranoid >.>), and I'll probably manage to upset someone, but I do wish you all well, and if we cross each other's paths again in the future, I hope we do it on good terms.
If I've defriended you recently, or if I do so in the future, it's probably not because I OMG HATE you or anything. Much more likely to be a combination of needing to make it smaller (both for reading and so I feel more comfortable writing here again, because it's been difficult sometimes recently), and not feeling as close to or having much in common with you as others on my list. I know I'll end up keeping people who I don't have much in common with or aren't really close to either, but I sometimes find it interesting being able to get a window in to people's lives that I would otherwise not get out in the real world. This list isn't a true reflection of who my friends are and who I like the best, so I hope people don't take it too personally and think that I like them less than random!person who's still on there or anything, because it's not quite how I use my friends list.
Being defriended always sucks (unless you've secretly been wanting to defriend that person yourself - for that matter, if you have secretly been wanting to defriend me, now is a good time to do it because I probably won't take it badly! Only don't all rush at once or I'll get paranoid >.>), and I'll probably manage to upset someone, but I do wish you all well, and if we cross each other's paths again in the future, I hope we do it on good terms.