Sex and the University: The best imitation of myself
No one considers themselves a bad driver. No matter how many accidents you have created, how many school children nose dive into the curb, or people you cut off "uncooly" being Paul Walker in your Lumina ( you know who you are you sick bastard) there is always someone on the road who is worse than you. You can always look at that car going merely 55 in a 55 and say, "Yeah, instead of revoking Grandma's license I think they took her gas pedal." Everyone considers themselves a good driver and most are very defensive when their skills are challenged. I believe the same can be used in a relationship. Everyone thinks they make a good mate. That they are laid back and easy, fun, exciting, and clearly the "perfect mate." It's not that we hold ourselves to a high regard but rather that is how most of us are with our friends.
Just the other day my friend stopped by and was complaining about this guy she is sort of seeing in a non-relationship manner. They were more than friends and in that abyss in between. Title or not they had crossed a line things, things small things now became complex things. As I listen to her complain about him and his shortcomings I think about our relationship as friends. If I were to treat her in the same fashion, if I were to neglect our friendship I could see her becoming rather irked but not to this point. My friend who I always considered rational, fair, and level-headed was getting quite worked up over something that was in no doubt a wrong doing but not a severe infraction. How could someone whom I have known and grown up with react in a matter that seemed so un-character, so bizarre and unpredictable. Does dating someone require you to date their Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?
Not a week later I agreed to go on a quasi date with a guy. We were to go out on Friday to a movie and a dinner but the time and place was saved to be discussed. As Friday rolled around and the afternoon passed I became anxious. It became very important where we were going, if were were going, when we were going, and when I finally talk to my date I let my vile side out chastising him for not calling. Although I fully understand my reasoning to be upset the oddity occurs in that if it were any other person, just some friend, just some plans, I wouldnt have needed to know a head of time.
The minute a friendship to some degree changes into a title less to labeled sort of relationship, when it enters the chasm of non-friendship-friends obstacles that were once speed bumps become mountains. We find ourselves unleashing our wicked sides on people in situations we said we never would. Which makes dating quite the problem because when you date someone even someone you have known for years, you also are dating their hang-ups, and nasty sidekicks.
Just the other day my friend stopped by and was complaining about this guy she is sort of seeing in a non-relationship manner. They were more than friends and in that abyss in between. Title or not they had crossed a line things, things small things now became complex things. As I listen to her complain about him and his shortcomings I think about our relationship as friends. If I were to treat her in the same fashion, if I were to neglect our friendship I could see her becoming rather irked but not to this point. My friend who I always considered rational, fair, and level-headed was getting quite worked up over something that was in no doubt a wrong doing but not a severe infraction. How could someone whom I have known and grown up with react in a matter that seemed so un-character, so bizarre and unpredictable. Does dating someone require you to date their Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde?
Not a week later I agreed to go on a quasi date with a guy. We were to go out on Friday to a movie and a dinner but the time and place was saved to be discussed. As Friday rolled around and the afternoon passed I became anxious. It became very important where we were going, if were were going, when we were going, and when I finally talk to my date I let my vile side out chastising him for not calling. Although I fully understand my reasoning to be upset the oddity occurs in that if it were any other person, just some friend, just some plans, I wouldnt have needed to know a head of time.
The minute a friendship to some degree changes into a title less to labeled sort of relationship, when it enters the chasm of non-friendship-friends obstacles that were once speed bumps become mountains. We find ourselves unleashing our wicked sides on people in situations we said we never would. Which makes dating quite the problem because when you date someone even someone you have known for years, you also are dating their hang-ups, and nasty sidekicks.