I need some words of wisdom for my daughter...

[emcmolloy]

I’m assuming most of the women on my list are of an age where we’ve all experience heartbreak. How did you get over a first love? What coping mechanisms did you use? I’m trying to help but I’m so angry with her ex that I just want her to get over him NOW and not waste another tear on minute thinking about him. OK, so that’s not realistic but I’m

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[stillife]

Aww, Liz. Sorry to hear about this. I guess it's just a rite of passage for all of us. Sounds like you're already doing all you can to help, by listening and being there for her. I remember when I was an angst-ridden teenager, my grandmother told me, "This too shall pass." I was like, thanks a lot! (Of course, I didn't say that, lol.) But it really is true. Time heals all wounds and time wounds all heels.

I haven't experienced this with my kids (yet). I have a 19 year old son, Nick, who has a long-term, on-again, off-again GF but he doesn't tell me anything. He's like I was as a teenager. My 15-year-old daughter Emma is very open and chatty, but she hasn't been through it yet. She's had lots of boyfriends, but nothing serious. The funniest thing was when she had an unrequited crush on a boy. Emma's big on self-help books (and Lifetime Original Movies) and she read somewhere that the way to get over unrequited love was to make a list of the person's bad qualities. So I'm cleaning off her desk and I come across this Post-It note that says, "tiny and ugly". That was her description of the boy! ROFL! She did get over her crush, they're good friends now and at some point he developed a crush on her. But I don't think that'd be of any use in Alli's situation. :(

I would give her a bit of time to mope; we all need that, but if it seems to be going on for too long, encourage her to get out and do things. Being active is a great antidote to depression. I just hope she doesn't take him back. Then you (and she) may be in for a real emotional rollercoaster.

[emcmolloy]

Emma's big on self-help books (and Lifetime Original Movies)

Thanks, I needed a good laugh.

Being active is a great antidote to depression.

That is my advise too, just keep moving forward, the less active she stays the more time she spends thinking about it. Brian is being surprisingly empathetic, I figured he would dismiss her feelings and all the crying but he's really been good with her.

I just hope she doesn't take him back. Then you (and she) may be in for a real emotional rollercoaster.

I think, had they broken up for any other reason than him not being able to keep his dick in his own pants, there may have been hope for them. But she knows she deserves better and refuses to settle for less.