A house built on love
I've been trying to build this as an actual 3D image in my head, labels and all, but I suspect there's no one right answer on all of it, per se.
I had an unbidden daydream the other day of trying to talk to a young woman who kept returning to her abusive boyfriend saying "but I love him!"
I explained that trying to survive a relationship with love alone is like trying to live in a house with the most stable foundation possible, build in bedrock, but lacking support columns, walls, and a roof. Yes, the ground under your feet isn't going anywhere, and if you could build a house here you'd be quite well off for a very long time. On the flip side, building a relationship like that without love is like building a palace on a bed of sand - ever wonder where that sinking feeling is coming from?
The problem is, you can't build any house when someone else is busy taking down every column, wall, and roof tile you try to put up, no matter how firm a foundation you're building on. It's just not going to work. Love until the end of time, but if you can't build on that love it's not enough. Love doesn't fix anything, it just makes it worth the effort to try to fix things.
From there, I moved on with the image in my head - okay, Love is the foundation, and I think Communication is probably the roof, or perhaps Self-Awareness. What are the support pillars? What are the walls (in the positive sense)?
--Ember--
I had an unbidden daydream the other day of trying to talk to a young woman who kept returning to her abusive boyfriend saying "but I love him!"
I explained that trying to survive a relationship with love alone is like trying to live in a house with the most stable foundation possible, build in bedrock, but lacking support columns, walls, and a roof. Yes, the ground under your feet isn't going anywhere, and if you could build a house here you'd be quite well off for a very long time. On the flip side, building a relationship like that without love is like building a palace on a bed of sand - ever wonder where that sinking feeling is coming from?
The problem is, you can't build any house when someone else is busy taking down every column, wall, and roof tile you try to put up, no matter how firm a foundation you're building on. It's just not going to work. Love until the end of time, but if you can't build on that love it's not enough. Love doesn't fix anything, it just makes it worth the effort to try to fix things.
From there, I moved on with the image in my head - okay, Love is the foundation, and I think Communication is probably the roof, or perhaps Self-Awareness. What are the support pillars? What are the walls (in the positive sense)?
--Ember--