Hi, I'm poly and I don't exist.

[emanix]

Hi, I'm a polyamorous woman, and I don't exist. In fact, I don't believe that polyamorous people exist.

“Huh?” I hear you say. “But you just declared yourself polyamorous. Up there! It says so!”

I did, and I do. I call myself polyamorous because I see this as an important part of how I relate to other people in my life. So I call myself poly in the

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[emanix]

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[emanix]

If you're going to conflate concepts like 'can' and 'should', then there is no appropriate place to carry on a conversation. A gay-identified man absolutely CAN get a wife and have kids, and he may carry beliefs about himself and the world that convince him it's a good idea to do so. That doesn't imply any opinion on my part as to whether or not he SHOULD.
Your original comment displayed a curious ambivalence to poly which implied that you felt you had no choice about being so, and might prefer to be otherwise. My point was that if you honestly preferred to behave otherwise, you have that option open to you.

None of this reflects on my opinion of you as a person, and I hope to enjoy the trip to France, but perhaps we can leave the intellectual debate for later in the trip.