Self-worth..Men vs. Women...? And a word on Sex & Orgasms.
So, on the heels of my last feminism-post: (I want to call these my "Fem-positive posts", from now on... just changed my 'Feminism' tag to "Fem-positive posts!".)
I was talking to my boyfriend of 10yrs. lastnight about this article regarding cheating spouses and the top 10 reasons their women stay. According to a poll, 75% of women stay with ( Read more... )
I was talking to my boyfriend of 10yrs. lastnight about this article regarding cheating spouses and the top 10 reasons their women stay. According to a poll, 75% of women stay with ( Read more... )
I agree with Lorac about the school thing. I know so many girls, myself one of them, that was so emotionally damaged by other kids' comments. I had guys actually tell me to my face that I was ugly or make mean comments to their guys friends, joking that I would be the only girlfriend they could ever get. I didn't like myself much back then. I'm thankful for my dad though because he was the one to make me feel better.
What's scary is that my little girl, Aeries, has already started worrying about her looks. When she was about 7 she made a comment that she had to keep her long hair so her little 'boyfriend' would think she is pretty. My guess is that he, a 6 year old, must have said something to her! I was totally shocked when she said this. She will be 9 this Sunday. I wish I could shield her from all of it, but it's impossible. If anyone writes that book, I will be first in line to buy it!
I've never understood the point in 'faking it'. It's much easier to just tell your partner what you want. Guess that goes along with the 'sex is all about male pleasure' thing. For a while I was frustrated because it was mostly one-sided. As soon as he was finished that was it. But after expressing that it upset me and that I felt like my needs weren't as important, he totally changed and he tries his best every time to satisfy me. (I listened to Dr. Phil's advice - Just ASK for what you want from your partner.)
As for the cheating thing, I've been there. But I'd rather talk about that in a PM so it's not available on the internet. :)
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I guess my Feminism posts aren't really all that positive...I mean, I'm pretty much just bitching about men, but I do try to talk positively about various subjects, too.;)
I was picked on in HS a bit, too. I didn't have anyone telling me I was ugly or calling me names, but I had popular girls being mean. I don't shower every single day (it's not good for your skin and hair, anyway) but my hair has always gotten greasy looking fast -especially back in HS when I would leave my hair down alot and had a habit of running my fingers back through my bangs...
-So they would be mean and ask, "Do you ever wash your hair/shower?" -It was embarrassing and it was mean. It was in the condescending looks and tones, etc.
And then in HS I had various guys who would push me against lockers in passing me in the hallways. This one guy in my Spanish class (a class or two below me) would push his desk up behind mine when I had my hair down so that my hair was trapped and when I would sit forward I'd end up pulling my hair out. He thought this was hilarious. He also dropped his phone number beside my desk once or twice and then loudly started going on about "No, you can't have my phone number!!" and shit like that. Like I'd even 'want' to go out with his juvenile ass, anyway. And I had a boyfriend at that point, too.
-But yeah...I got picked on, too.
Though, ironically, at the same time I also had a couple of people recommending me for modeling. So, go figure. o_O
That's sad that it starts so young, already. I hope (and I'm sure) that you're telling her not to worry about what other people think, especially boys -but to live for herself and do what makes her happy.
That sucks that he'd just be done when he was done...did he not stick around for your pleasure at all? How were you not considered?
I'm glad that that got fixed, I'm just shocked that that's how it was to begin with.:/
But yeah, talk to your partner -tell them what's up.
If you ever want to talk about your cheating experience, feel free to PM me.
Thanks so much for the comment!:)
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