Is life complicated or do we make it so?
Day before I was working late as I had a deadline to meet and when the clock struck 12:00am I realized it was my friend's birthday so I called her up. Mo. ended up crying like anything, telling me about her personal life gone sour. Even yesterday while I was out (had a marriage and mehndi function to attend and got home late at night), she kept calling and crying on the phone and I was feeling so helpless.
She is with a guy who is from a different religion and insists she must convert and because she refuses, he generates sympathy for himself, saying he will be a social outcast and will never get into Heaven etc. His mum also called up Mo. telling her she had taken away her son and other crap, using derogatory language for my friend and all this in front of her boyfriend Sa. He refused to intervene saying his mum was not saying anything wrong and that it was the personal matter between Mo and his mum. As I was listening to all this I really felt that if Mo had been in front of me, I would have probably given her a slap to wake her up.
I wonder what commitment this is when the guy refuses to stand by you and when all the guy thinks of, is himself. She wants to stay with him because they are intimate and she feels she cannot survive without him. I have realized that you always survive and all that we are afraid of is the hurt but we forget, the hurt will someday end. She has given him 2 years and if she breaks off now, a year on she will be ok. Thats just 3 years of her life compared to the next 50-60 years of pain and heart-break and eventual realization that you made a mistake. Sa. isn't a bad guy either, he is just what he is and both of them are not compatible. Often times the best of people are the worst of couples. Just because you're good human beings does not mean you will be happy together. I know love blinds us, we are scared of the hurt but we owe it to ourselves to take a call and give ourselves another chance. We all make mistakes of judgment but the wise thing is to realize it and move on. Its never the good in people that we should focus on, but on whats bad in them and if we can live with that. Its such a simple thing and people make it so complicated, Mo is all about how many good things are there in Sa but she fails to see that at his very core, Sa is very different and incompatible with her.
She is with a guy who is from a different religion and insists she must convert and because she refuses, he generates sympathy for himself, saying he will be a social outcast and will never get into Heaven etc. His mum also called up Mo. telling her she had taken away her son and other crap, using derogatory language for my friend and all this in front of her boyfriend Sa. He refused to intervene saying his mum was not saying anything wrong and that it was the personal matter between Mo and his mum. As I was listening to all this I really felt that if Mo had been in front of me, I would have probably given her a slap to wake her up.
I wonder what commitment this is when the guy refuses to stand by you and when all the guy thinks of, is himself. She wants to stay with him because they are intimate and she feels she cannot survive without him. I have realized that you always survive and all that we are afraid of is the hurt but we forget, the hurt will someday end. She has given him 2 years and if she breaks off now, a year on she will be ok. Thats just 3 years of her life compared to the next 50-60 years of pain and heart-break and eventual realization that you made a mistake. Sa. isn't a bad guy either, he is just what he is and both of them are not compatible. Often times the best of people are the worst of couples. Just because you're good human beings does not mean you will be happy together. I know love blinds us, we are scared of the hurt but we owe it to ourselves to take a call and give ourselves another chance. We all make mistakes of judgment but the wise thing is to realize it and move on. Its never the good in people that we should focus on, but on whats bad in them and if we can live with that. Its such a simple thing and people make it so complicated, Mo is all about how many good things are there in Sa but she fails to see that at his very core, Sa is very different and incompatible with her.