Can't it just be friendship
About a month back I had two of my college friends over. After some time my mum returned from the movies with her friend. When my friends saw the guy my mum was with, they started commenting on the fact that S. is so young and it looks bad etc etc. It was my fault but I didn't stop them, in fact I got more and more angry at my mum. At the time I was already having fights with my mum and being fair was far from my agenda.
However, as I sat down to muse over what had happened, I realized there was nothing wrong in my mum being friends with a really young guy, he is in his early twenties. They go out for movies and maybe grab some coffee inbetween and whats wrong with that? I too have friends who are in their 50s or older, and they are just that, good friends. So why can't my mum be friends with some one quite young?
A few days back my friend Ha. called me and somewhere in between commented on my mum hanging out and going to movies. This time I made sure to tell him in very clear words that my mum has a right to live her life and enjoy too. Because she has been married for 30+ years does not mean she is bound only to her family and cannot have a life separate from ours. In fact she should make time everyday just for herself. I also told him that it was my fault that I didn't stop him before but henceforth he shouldn't ever comment on my mother and what she chooses to do in her free time and her life. Whatever our differences may be, I can say fairly that she has done nothing wrong and its not her fault that people in general are too damn conservative to even understand the concept of friendship, even if it comes with an age difference.
However, as I sat down to muse over what had happened, I realized there was nothing wrong in my mum being friends with a really young guy, he is in his early twenties. They go out for movies and maybe grab some coffee inbetween and whats wrong with that? I too have friends who are in their 50s or older, and they are just that, good friends. So why can't my mum be friends with some one quite young?
A few days back my friend Ha. called me and somewhere in between commented on my mum hanging out and going to movies. This time I made sure to tell him in very clear words that my mum has a right to live her life and enjoy too. Because she has been married for 30+ years does not mean she is bound only to her family and cannot have a life separate from ours. In fact she should make time everyday just for herself. I also told him that it was my fault that I didn't stop him before but henceforth he shouldn't ever comment on my mother and what she chooses to do in her free time and her life. Whatever our differences may be, I can say fairly that she has done nothing wrong and its not her fault that people in general are too damn conservative to even understand the concept of friendship, even if it comes with an age difference.