When I was a kid, I used to wish that ‘‘friend marriages’’ were possible. I thought I was the only one who had even imagined the concept. Then, later on, I learned they were in some parts of the world - even accepted by the culture at large! - and my mind was considerably blown.
When I started identifying as lesbian, I felt (and still do, to be honest) really apprehensive about it. It doesn’t seem like it should be a mind-boggling concept to say that I have felt ‘‘in love’’ with males and would still willingly enter a romantic relationship with one, but apparently it is.
Anyway, I'm sorry if this is ultra-creepy, but I occasionally look up the people who go to NHIA and are on LJ, and I thought your email handle looked familiar when I received your short story in my inbox. I'm the talkative, obnoxious one in (well, that’s past-tense now) our short story class. Maybe I am sheltered, but I haven't come across too many people that care a great deal about gender, sexuality, and autism issues, nevermind in a similar light that I do. I was wondering if I could ‘‘friend’’ you?
Boston Marriages, for one, yeah. I had sort of the same feeling, for a while, with friend marriages. For a really long time, actually. It was like 'So, what if I don't want to be in love or aren't in love or whatever, but still want to share my life with someone in some way?'
No idea how much sense that makes.
And yeah, of course you can friend (not creepy) but I should probably warn you that 90% of my Flocked entries are Flocked due to pure inanity. So.
I had a close friend for whom I felt pretty intensely for a while, and there weren’t many I talked to who believed me when I'd say it was completely platonic. One acquaintance was even trying to convince me that I did actually feel romantically for this friend, because no one feels deeply towards someone else without some sort of sexual attraction (in my acquaintance's words). That was a little bizarre and alienating. But yeah, I thought about friend marriages especially during that time, and also how it'd be wrong to call it a ‘‘gay’’ marriage if we did marry, because my friend identifies as straight.
I've got plenty of my own inanity, so it's a-okay by me.
When I started identifying as lesbian, I felt (and still do, to be honest) really apprehensive about it. It doesn’t seem like it should be a mind-boggling concept to say that I have felt ‘‘in love’’ with males and would still willingly enter a romantic relationship with one, but apparently it is.
Anyway, I'm sorry if this is ultra-creepy, but I occasionally look up the people who go to NHIA and are on LJ, and I thought your email handle looked familiar when I received your short story in my inbox. I'm the talkative, obnoxious one in (well, that’s past-tense now) our short story class. Maybe I am sheltered, but I haven't come across too many people that care a great deal about gender, sexuality, and autism issues, nevermind in a similar light that I do. I was wondering if I could ‘‘friend’’ you?
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No idea how much sense that makes.
And yeah, of course you can friend (not creepy) but I should probably warn you that 90% of my Flocked entries are Flocked due to pure inanity. So.
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I've got plenty of my own inanity, so it's a-okay by me.
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