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It's been rough these past few days. My sister called... Mom will probably not live through the summer and it is most likely dad will not survive her by long.. They have been together almost 55 years and they are each others world. When one gets hospitalized the other usually ends up in there before long
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Right now I'd appreciate it if people will try to understand if I'm even more ditsy then usual :)
It's better today... I am able to channel my grief off into the right areas and I'm not doing embarrassing things like crying in front of people anymore.
I'm arranging our visit which is complicated by my sister giving me one of her cars (a 1997 Subaru station wagon) which I'll need to insure and drive home. She won't need it because mom is giving my sister the new car they bought which mom drove only once or twice.
Originally I said no but I changed my mind. She's doing it because she feels guilty, but maybe it will check a bit of the firestorm that will commence when my brother finds out. You see, my sister - who has been their caregiver for the past couple of years - pushed them into getting the car and my brother has said she did it cause she felt she'd get it one day. He's also said several times that I should get it (since mom can't drive it) because I'm the only sibling without a good car... You see where this is leading?
And that's the other thing I'm dreading... I'm the one who'll get stuck between the two of them when mom and dad aren't there to curtail the fighting anymore. The overly controlling older sister and the often irresponsible youngest brother... And me in the middle trying to explain to them that: a) as long as I get the books and some family photos, I'm good to go, b) I do have emotions, I just know how to control them better then they do, and c) yes I love them but no I will never move back to Kelowna.
... And some people say sibling rivalry goes away when you become adults... Right :)
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